I feel sad

---

@Former-Member wrote:
i have been there for three and a half years i have made friendships with people i have contributed so much, one minute i get told we understand this isn't you, ts your behaviour, we still like you, the next minute I'm being asked if i think i should leave?????

---

Hi @Former-Member

Yes - I do understand - you have been there for a long time and contributed a lot and wow - what they said is so bad

It isn't you - it's your behaviour - then - we like you but we think you should leave

Totally confusing Jay - I get it - I had a lot of that with my son and I was in a Tough Love Programme because of him and I had to say to him

"I love you but I don't like what you are doing"

So I think I see both sides but yes - this has to be hard and confusing for you

And also you have been asked to leave every situation you have been in - and this is really tough - really really tough

I don't know what they are talking about when they mention your behaviour - I can't possibly tell - and it is something I might have insight into because of how I had to manage my son - and his story is a very sad one too which could be the reason I feel drawn to talk with you

But if they don't like your behaviour - maybe have not explained what you have done -- pretty sure they haven't been clear

Then maybe give up and start again here - I can't see the future but one thing I know is that I have left websites and groups in the real world because I have reached a point where I have not been pleased with what is taking place there - and I have moved on regardless of my investment to a place that was important to me

This is a part of life - maybe no one has explained it to you - it is a kindness you deserve - to have it explained - but not everyone will

I hope you can stay here and contribute to the lives of other people here - and I am sure I haven't read everything you have communicated here but from what I have read people are concerned and care about you

But whatever your choice - I wish you the best and care a lot

Dec

btw - I think you need someone to hear you and I have - I hope it helps

fair enough @Former-Member well again it is up to you. if you want to stay there your allowed back on there next week.

I hear you @Former-Member

It seems to be your behaviour and believe me - I speak from experience - there is only one person who can do anything about that

I stuck with my son until the end but all of those things you write about I have experience from the other side

He was difficult, disruptive and too hard - I didn't have the capacity to help him anymore after he broke the law in a serious way and he put himself into a place where things became too much for him to and I couldn't help him anymore

I stuck by him though

But in his case and in yours there is only one person who can rectify this and it was his choice and yours now

It was too late for him Jay - not to late for you - here you will get good suggestions - there are guidelines sure but you haven't broken them yet

Is it that you want another chance with Reach Out? Are you trying to get another chance? Would you be able to change your behaviour if you had that chance?

No one is driving you away here Jay - you are welcome - at least we can plug the gap for you while you try and find your way back and it does sound important to you that you do

Dec

I know but I have editied it - my answer is there now

Okay @Former-Member

They are giving you a chance

You have been communicating well here - and with me - I have a pretty good idea about you now which comes from years of experience of course

But here you are - if you read the guidelines and follow them when and if you go back to Reach Out - then you can show them that you have had a good look at the situation and you want to change

I am really glad you have this chance and I do want you to stay here but I get it that Reach Out if for young people - and you want to be with young people

But get this Jay - I have been talking to you over a few days and I have challenged you and you have responded well and honestly - I like you and I think you can do well if you keep you head and stick to what they want

I really want to to show them you can - I think you can

But we will still be here Jay

Dec