Blank mind during conversations

Hi @merdasdasd,

Mental blocks when your mind goes blank can be anxiety provoking in itself, which, in turn can worsen the the mental blocks, which can create a feedback loop. Can I ask how long things have been like this? Do you have supports like a counsellor or psychologist?

I also want to say thanks for talking about your experience. It takes a lot of guts to share what you're going through.

CB

@CherryBomb point about the feed back loop is important ...

I experienced a similar blankness a great deal growing up. I just didnt have anything I knew about that was relevant to my social world. So I was just quiet on the edges. Whenever I did volunteer something it was usually just laughed at. I moved on got a job, travelled. Travelling overseas for a year was the first place that I had actual conversations with people ... mostly polite and interested ... BECAUSE they didnt make assumptions but just shared from different points of view but with respect ...

Now I can have conversations ... I try not to make them too long and gently keep moving ... most people dont want to rattle on too much ... tho sometimes "friends" seem to expect a lot ... make sure conversation goes both ways ... your interests and points of view are just as valid as the next person.

I know it is hard to start conversing .. I needed singing to keep the vocalising connected and eventually after years began having more "social" type of conversations. Good Luck ... dont compromise yourself too much ... a conversation takes two ... you have rights in it too.

Or you could say 'sorry, I just had a mental blank then'. Sometimes just saying what is going on for you can open up opportunities for others to share their own glitches and anxieties.

The more I've done this, the more genuine connections I've made with people.

I've been judged at times for being too self deprecating and of course there are some who are not going to engage, but I have learned to have an internal chuckle at people's responses when I recognize their discomfort comes from their own anxieties!!!

I was frequently tongue-tied or had mental blanks...but then noticed others talking casually about their "senior moments"

I say "I started off with alzheimers when I was young and as I age I'm getting better"

hey @merdasdasd

Did anything happen 4 years ago when they started?

CB