BambiFawnSenior Contributor
My daughter wants no contact with me
My daughter wants no contact with me.
As a background, she was raised by me after i was granted custody by my psychiatrist and she was in my care for 5 years, then I relinquished her care to the Department of Families, as I was ill. This btw was a very brave decision by me. So she was in fostercare for a year, and then my mother applied as a Relative Fostercarer and took care of her from age 7 - 18. My mother btw has abused me and had married 4 men, so I had 4 fathers by the age of 18, which was very unsettling. There was some domestic violence with the 4 fathers as well occasionally.
I know I've not been a bad mother. I've been a good mother to say that my brother was murdered when my baby was only 1 1/2 months old and I started hallucinating or hearing my mother's voice when my baby was 4 months old in the post partum period. It was hard work looking after my baby whilst hallucinating every second.
Recently my daughter took drug ice for a week and marijuana. She was dealing drugs and assaulted me, so i told the police about her. She does not forgive me for this, but she had bought $3,500 worth of marijuana and was dealing it and I was very concerned. I just wanted the police to give her a severe reprimand and talk sence into her. She does not forgive me for making a witness statement against her bf because the police asked me too. I've done my best to be a loving mother, but I've tried to tell my daughter that my mother beat me up once and has been verbally abusing me behind closed doors, but she does not believe me and is taking sides with my mother, her Gran against me. My mother has spoilt my daughter and bought my daughter's love and loyalty with her money.
I just keep sending cards and parcels but daughter said and swore' she does not want my shitty parcels with expensive postage.
Not sure what to do. Maybe I can do nothing. It seems that my mother has been disparaging me to my daughter and has tried to drive a wedge between me and my daughter. The police have told me to relinquish all ties to my mother, so in this dvo situation I have placed healthy boundaries with my mother and have nothing to do with her now, but I'm always here for my daughrer, but she wants nothing to do with me.
Not sure how to get thru to my daughter. She refuses to believe me that my mother abused me, even when my solicitor read my mother's e-mails and called my mother vicious. My daughter seems brainwashed by my mother and always takes sides with her.
please tell me that my prayers, cards and parcels may help. What should i do when daughter wants nothing to do with me. She is 21 and not long before she has her baby now. So thank heavens, she is not taking drugs now we don't believe.I'm excited to be a Grandmother, but sad my daughter wants no contact.
