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@heartathome I am sorry you're feeling abandoned.

I have difficulty accepting rejection due to my childhood so I understand how you must be feeling.

Like you I connected with someone on Sane about 2 years ago when they would disappear and I had no idea what was going on.

I completely understand that Sane has guidelines we need to adhere to for privacy reasons but not knowing what has happened to a person can be exceptionally difficult.

I would worry that this member had harmed themselves or worse and it was absolute torture not knowing.

In the end the member disappeared completely.

I do believe that Sane should consider it a duty of care to reach out privately in cases like this if they are aware of this person's reasons for going quiet even just to say they are taking a break. If it's a short pause then they could say that they will back as soon as they're ready.

That is not a breach of privacy in my very humble opinion.

I know when I had to take a break and I wasn't able to alert the members I shared with daily/regularly they told me how worried they were about me when I came back.

Even just a simple "they are okay" would be better than the current no communication rule.

I hope the member returns soon my darling friend, you're in my prayers 🙏 ❤️

@DownMoreThanUp and now my support button is working!

You are so right, the prince of darkness truly does his best to fracture Christian relationships and I should have known better.

Should this happen again, and the sneaky snake will try as we know all too well, as soon as I start to feel that heaviness I am going to do my darndest to remember who we are and that Jesus has already won the war.

Satan, you have NO place here. In the name of Jesus Christ we command you to LEAVE and never return.

Amen and blessings to you and your family 🙏😊

Thanks for talking to me about it @AuntGlow I think it helps me the most! I'm thinking since it's such a big trigger, I can either leave or get used to the 'abandonment' feelings so it's eventually not so much of a trigger. I don't want to leave! It's difficult because I don't know people like I knew this person. We really got on together. What days do you work? I'm sorry I haven't even asked how you're going. Are you well? 💛

Thanks @ENKELI You are very kind! I understand SANE's privacy policy but yes, it is hard not knowing! I'm sorry you also had that experience of someone 'leaving' you! I feel devastated! 😭 I think SANE would give them a call and see how they are. I hope so, anyway! I have catastrophic thinking so tend to think the worse. I'm trying to let that person go! Thank you for calling me a friend! I could cry! Thanks' also for praying for me. I do appreciate your prayers!

@ENKELI @heartathome @AuntGlow @rav3n @Jynx

Dear friends i would like to reuest prayers for my wife and me today. First thing this morning will be taking our down syndrome daughter to have her tooth pulled out. This has never happened to her before. Our girl is very sensitive to pain and paranoid shitless about syringes being stuck into her.

On purpose we have not informed her about what is coming apart that her sore tooth will be taken out today, which she is looking forward to.

The dentist, who has met our girl when she examined her teeth a few weeks back believes she can manage her, and that us trying it this way would be more beneficial than awaiting an appointment with the hospital, for the waiting list is months long. And that even if our attempt would fail, the dentist herself could then make an appointment for our daughter in the hospital, which will then then be treated as an emergency and by pass the Hospital waiting list.

So if you have time this morning please pray my wife and me will be able to hold her down on the chair without having to be overwhelming to her, as well as keep in touch with her emotionally. For we know that if we speak gently encouraging to her, without showing our own stress or emotional upheaval, she will relax even when things that freak her otherwise are happen. As long as we keep her 'glued to our voices' she will let others do to her what she would otherwise never allow. For we know the moment she breaks contact with us she will respond to her panic. (Something we learned to do with her in the past, when she had to have a vaccine or blood samples taken by the doctor.)

The trouble we might face is that our girl is unbelievably strong when she panics, and has know to violently shove the person giving her a needle, as well as yanking the syringe back out of her arm in a messy/painful kind of way.

My wife will take her to the dentist at 9:15am for she needs antibiotics, as she has a heart condition, as well as put numbing yell on the spot the anaesthetic needle will go into her mouth. And then 40-50 minutes after that the extraction attempt will be, the time your prayers are needed for. So the ordeal will be around 10:00-1015Am Western Australian time.

i will let you know how we went. (Not looking forward to this much at all.😣) Lets hope this experience will not go wrong and set her back having others examine or treat her for ailments. It has taken us years to get her where she is today when it comes to physical examinations or worse needles.

Thanks a lot.💌

Praying for you, your wife and daughter @DownMoreThanUp I hope it goes well! 💛

appreciate you!!🫂 @ENKELI

your daughter is in my prayers too, i hope the appointment goes smoothly 💜 @DownMoreThanUp

I was given the same verse yesterday by a friend. This came up as my verse for today. I think God is trying to tell me something!

@heartathome @rav3n Thanks for praying. Although it was a major deal and it took 4 people her bad tooth is out and our girl is happy and so are we!😀

At first my wife thought i better hold her hands, seeing she is so strong, and my wife would hold her head, for they did not have a bracket to keep her face in place. All went well, even putting eye covers on, until the dentist gave her the first needle. She violently twisted her head away, which my wife could not stop her from doing, and this ripped the needle out of her mouth. Then she ripped the eye covers off, sat up, and began to cry.

We both understood we needed to swap places. For our girl had not even tried using her hands, but rather had firmly grabbed my hands as i was holding hers while violently shaking her head instead.

The dentist was great though. For as she was administering the needle i could see she was not taking any chances they way she did this. (from along the side, rather than from the middle of mouth) And our daughter's sudden movements did not take her at all by surprise, but she skilfully made sure our girl did not get hurt taking it safely out of her mouth. (She did rather violently bite her tongue though, for she clamped her mouth shut without being able to feel where her tongue was inside her mouth doing that, straight after the second needle.)

It did take us awhile calming her down though. We could see the wisdom both going, for the effort it took us to get her to relax showed us this. also swapping places worked for good. For i had no trouble keeping her head still, and got our girl to trust the dentist enough to give her another two needles, even though they hurt her, and fill a big hole, without repeating her first performance.

Again the Dentist was great! She explained everything she was going to do, and let her listen to the sounds it made before she would use it inside her mouth. We know this is essential with our daughter, and although we often tell nurses and doctors few ever take heed and usually run a dead end with her. But this dentist knew very well how to put our girl to rest. Even making jokes about the sounds her drill would make inside her head. We were both rapt watching this dentist deal with our girl stressing so skilfully and professionally.

We are sure that next she has to have more dental work done, and this dentist is still works there, that our girl will have no troubles coming along.

Again thanks for praying. We are so happy with the results.

She was so happy with her rotten tooth in a plastic bag, along with knowing she had been very brave. Also because my wife had taken a photo of her laying on the chair with her eye covers on and her mouth open, (right at the beginning while the workers were not looking, and their faces would not be visible, for it was not allowed,😱) for now she can show off her bravery to her carers. And of course because that tooth was never going to hurt her again.

Of course! @heartathome 🥰

I can hear this is really big for you right now and I can absolutely relate to how overwhelming feeling abandoned can be. I do think your idea of staying and adjusting to their presence not being here is a really good plan. The reason why I say this is because it might allow your mind and body to feel what it's like to still be held, connected, and supported. I know it's such a scary feeling when someone we have connected with is no longer present, so I don't want to downplay this reality at all. Everything you are feeling makes so much sense. However, I can see there are many people who really care about you here. So I wonder what it would be like to connect with other people and allow them to hold you in your vulnerability right now? It's okay to talk about what is coming up for you and to ask your friends for help. I can imagine they have been through similar things too. 💛 @ENKELI @DownMoreThanUp