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Inclusive words - to apply to all

Inclusive words - to apply to all

Do people feel the use of inclusive terms like ‘mental health’ (that apply to everyone in society) be useful to take away some of the stigmatism people currently know/feel? eg I admire the way the Endeavour Foundation has grown from its beginnings in that area.

Would the moderators think it useful to put up some terms that could do with a perception make-over and see what better suggestions might arise?

Also, I think the term 'rehab' is better regarded than it once was. Maybe because public figures have had the courage to make a stand for it by showing their more human side helped with empathy from the media.

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Some words I like, and feel everyone deserves to both give and receive, (of course we can’t always have everything, but have found them nice to keep in mind):

Essence, affinity, endure, prevail, presence, positive, natural, evolve, develop, grow, take shape, chemical balancing, mental equilibrium, mental hygiene, rationality, courage, better thoughts, acceptance, teachable, gratefulness, appeal, interest, well-being, welfare, betterment, kindness, improvement, mutual, beneficial, edifying, purpose, seek, communicate, moderation, temperance, hope, sufficiency, be enough, goodness, betterment, uplift, mend, healing, resilience, restorative, to feel safe, assurance, confidence, sanctuary, safe place, shelter, preservation, preventive, cherish, treasure, take measures, try, respite, tranquillity, recess, attitude, wisdom, counsel, simplicity, natural, cooperation, common cause, compromise, consultation, connexion, fellowship, harmony, concord, empathy, compassion, peace, validation, sincerity, sensitivity, decency, hope, trustworthiness, courage, humbleness, friendship, courtesy, caring love, well-meaning, good will, forgiveness, regard

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Yes I do think that how we use words matters a lot.

Its a great list.

I know I have influenced others to tone down their language .... but sometimes I feel like I am words transformer action girl ....

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You ask too much lol

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Hi @MentalWealth,

These are all great suggestions and I think it would be really useful for everyone to come up with a word or two that they think could do with a perception makeover

I'm interested to see what members come up with

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I have had a lot of difficulty socialising with authenticity as there have usually been too many problem words that I utter as normal ... but other people often think (and one said) are like bombs going off.

I worked very hard at excising the words "schizophrenia" and "suicide" from my vocab for many years ... but at some point in time they get uttered.

I started to do a fight back after my failed marriage and I started getting very antsy with "nice" or "middle class" people ... in fact now when I say those words it is not a compliment.

It is not fair on all the people of middling socioeconomic status who are decent and has become a bit of self-sabotage and bigotry in me ...

For a while I had a problem with "gorgeous" and "cute" ... but that seems to be settling now that my son seems to be coming into a sense of his own attractiveness ... so I am better at recognising it in others ... now that I dont feel my kids have been robbed of their birth-rights ...

Someone also once said that I used the word "schizophrenic" in a manner that sounded proud ...Just my thoughts ... I like the original posters list.

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Hi @MentalWealth

I love that list and I particularly love your username too!

I would love to hear what words members want an perception overhaul!

Great discussion - thanks for starting it.

Nik

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Lol I'm not partial to the word fragile or victim... I think they need an overhaul

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Hello SaneForumists,

Thank you for the shared posts to date. @AlienBP2 and @Former-Member, thank you too for your audible smiles (lols). Yes, the list could sound like a big ask. For me, it's not a pill to be swallowed as such, but rather a box of chocolates to rummage through 😉

Terms can have upsetting connotations depending on our experiences associated with them for sure. Using the word depression is probably still 'work in progress' for me, but it is getting easier. Finding the forum's anonymity is helpful in this regard. Even the word anxiety, that according to some articles is not classified as a MI.

I actually use the word fragile to let non-suffers (non-victims) know I'm not travelling well eg "I'm feeling a bit fragile right now" and most have been perceptive enough to be more gentle/make more space.

Also like the term Headspace (which I never really understood until recently & to put on my list). It's nice to feel less crowded-in/pressured, and find it helps me rejuvenate to get out again. When running into people who might ask how I am and if not feeling well at the time, I tell them "Have been better." and "Just needing my headspace for now."

Thank you for sharing your experience with words too @Appleblossom /Word Transformer Action Girl! It's certainly 1 approach that works (as you're an example) and I'm slowly finding that too. eg Suicide - notice even my health providers use it with a covered tone of voice when they mention it. I've been hiding it under 'self-harm' and for the first time recently said it to my psychiatrist in a conversationally 'normal' tone. Suicide is serious and distressing, and I'm glad the media mentions the statistics and areas of concern for it.

So for MI (eg schizophrenia, anxiety, depression and the likes) it's helped to see them as the clinical conditions that they are - just like diabetes and multiple sclerosis.

Coming to terms with our demons does take time and would be different for each individual - for me (like with Appleblossom) - time, understanding and use of terms in non-judgemental ways have been helpful.

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I need to use the words "fragile" or "delicate" when mixing with people ... as some people get into boisterous banter which, if I engage with ... can put my neck out ...

We also need to accept that words are so rich with connotations that we can discuss nd use them rather thn pin them down with strict definitions ... hopefully good communication will happen as a result.

I like "headspace" ... I say I have been "off with the fairies" when my attention wanders and I have missed an instruction etc ... but mostly I am tuned in enough ... for the short periods that I mingle ... to get by ...

I think through patience (7 years) I am finally getting through to people ... with my old choir ... some basses had been a problem ... but last weekend they gave me a clear indication that they want me back ... the worst offender actually means well ...some people cant help coming on strong ... but I have to be direct about it ... I often research and hone my assertion skills ...

the idea of clinging to "one's true self" can be a bit limiting ....it is a good ide in certain contextx .. but people may think that it is a key to authenticity ... it can become absolutist and rigid ... rather than the reality that we are always changing .. whether we know it or not.

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When I mention to people I'm BP I say it with
"Total acceptance" and because of the " extra creativity BP have ...I see that creativity ability as " special"....so with the good and the bad... I feel hey it's not so bad not being " normal" hence jokes ( at myself like " why be normal? normal is boring ....)

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I also make jokes about myself such as
" almost normal" ....
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