Suicidal partner

Hello @ADLEY

I have dealt with other people feeling suicidal and after 8 years of it ... I started to get some SI too. It is very confronting reading everyone's stories on the forum and coming to terms with how prevalent it is.

Your partner may not have been meaning to be hurt you by it ... but it is important for you to weigh up the value and importance of the relationship ... and definitely get support.

That is a burden .. it is a pity he did not get good follow up after hospitalisation.

Does he have a decent psych?

Sounds a little like my son .. it took his hospitalisation to get him to connect with professionals ... but we handled it alone together for many years.

However you are in a different relationship to him ... I have more responsibility ... your partner must know you probably need support.... and maybe that is the best argument to get him to accept help ... spread the load a little

I dont believe people really want to suicide if they can possibly find some good reasons for living ... that is not to downplay the seriousness of your concerns ...

but as his SI has been going on for so long he really needs to some psychotherapy to get a handle on the triggers

I also deal with SI. I cant control it as it comes in the form of unwanted and intrusive thoughts ... but it has been with me for a long time and I have managed to treat it like an annoying mosquito .... it may be possible he can manage it too. I have heard some people get over it completely.

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear that your partner is struggling with suicidal thoughts and still somewhat actively planning for this. This is concerning. I would highly recommend reading information and/or contacting https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au They will be able to advise you on what to do and steer you in the right direction. You need to open up frank discussions with him about your concerns and ask him directly about his suicidal ideations so that you can do an "informal" risk assessment and also make a safety plan with him. Call them today if you are concerned for his safety.

Janna ❤️

Hi @ADLEY

I'm so sorry to read the stressful situation you're in at the moment.

It's so important to open the lines of communication so you can feel comfortable knowing your partners is okay, or you know when to seek help when he's not. It sounds like he tells you sometimes when he's not okay - but it sounds like your concerned that he doesn't tell you all the time.

I just want to echo what @Janna suggested

1) Have a frank conversation about your concerns

2) Ask him directly about his suicidal ideation so you know where he's at

3) If his response concerns you or his behaviour worries you, call 000 if there's immediate danger or Suicide Call Back Service, who can give you some advice and direction

I'm assuming you're in NSW, given you mentioned the name of a hospital in the state. If so, I also suggest calling 24-hour State-Wide Mental Health Line on 1800 011 511 who are also very helpful.

In terms of finding a Thai therapist - you can search via Australian Psychological Society where you can seach by location and also language. All you need to do is do an inital search (perhaps by location) and then on the left hand side you can pick a language.

I hope you find this helpful.

Nik