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All storms pass

All storms pass

Good afternoon everybody,

As many of you are aware, there was a VERY big storm that swept across Forum Land last night. It started out on the ocean, but being such an extra giant storm, it rolled on quite a way inland too. Indeed, methinks the storm was so big, a tsunami may have crashed into the coast of Forum Land.

However, for the six billion four hundred and fifty five thousand nine hundred and seventy-first time, I have discovered that all storms pass. Even very very VERY big ones. There is going to be some cleaning up to do after this storm, and that might take a little while. But that's ok. The cleaning up can wait until the final remnants of this storm have passed.

Can I just say, the absolute height of a storm is a super good time to practice some DBT skills. It is HARD. It is so so SO hard. But it works. I am living proof that it works. Things got a little dodgy last night, but I still have a 100% success rate of surviving each day living with BPD. I have been on this adventure for more than twenty years now. I know how hard it is. I know how very very VERY hard it is. But with a great big toolkit of different skills and one or two amazing human beings (or carebears or butterflies) in your corner, it is survivable.

Today is still very tricky in my world because of all the debris floating around after the storm. The clean-up won't start happening today. It may not even happen tomorrow, or the next day, or even the day after that. And that's ok. There's no rush. Step 1 is to stay alive. Step 2 is to avoid doing anything that will complicate an already very complicated situation. That is all you have to do during the storm. Everything else will follow in time.

All is well - even when it isn't. I'm super glad I have my DBT skills toolkit. If you want to build your DBT skills toolkit, you might like to come and visit here: Let's do DBT How's THAT for shameless advertising.

I am Phoenix_Rising. Yesterday was hard, today is hard, tomorrow is likely to be hard, and there's a very good chance that the day after that will be hard too. But it won't be hard forever, and all I need to deal with right now, is right now. I can do this, I've got this - and so do you fellow storm-beaten Forumite!

@CheerBear @Zoe7 @Former-Member @Former-Member @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Former-Member

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Caring teachers and mental health workers kept me alive. Its the least I can do to acknowledge that.

My son thinks they do not help, but maybe they cannot change the external issues, but I know one of my current ladies CARES about my son and I and was treated dismissively by my CATT team in September.Our situation escalated and is still serious. My son also had an ED presentation that was poorly handled, instead of establishing APPROPRIATE follow up they discharged him.

Paranoia in the community is meaning that the repeated fobbing off of my son and I may become "criminogenic". My son still has no intention toward public harm and it is a waste of tax payers money that the prosecuation pretends he is a risk. My son is not that paranoid yet, but I am repeatedly told how paranoid the community is. What is the daughter of 2 schizophrenics supposed to think. Yes I am sorry and I can see that overall our general community has become a lot more paranoid. It makes me sad for everybody.

YET still while I am alive and take breath, I have no option but to pay respect to the things that are good and do work.

Flippancy by CATTteam is not a good. More follow ups are needed for ED presentations. APPOINTMENTS and phone calls SHOULD have been made. I need to log off and do some gardening and music. I have neglected my music a lot, with all the issues and research around his current situation. Our society is becoming more authoritarian. I doubt it will help the community.

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Hour by hour @Former-Member. I am really trying hard to not look too far past that atm. I couldn't sleep this afternoon so I am extremely tired and still quite shaky from the lack of sleep. On a positive - no nausea and headache is manageable for now.

How are you?

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Sorry to hear @Appleblossom everything that has happened with you and your family. There is still so far to go with MI and the stigmas associated with it.

I hope you enjoy your gardening and music

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@Zoe7nothing wrong with hour by hour or even minute by minute sometimes. We do what we can do to get through our days and nights. Lack of sleep does not help and it doesn't sound like your ''emergency meds" helped you sleep last night either. I am glad you can find some positives in an othewise crappy time!

I am ok. Saw pdoc today. Trying different meds since the ones I am on gave me side effects and didn't help me. So now another waiting game which I HATE. So will AGAIN wait to see if these new meds work, wait to see if I have side effects, just keep waiting!!

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@Owlunar Awwwww thank you for saying I'm magnificant. I have a sneaking suspicion that there may be one or two people who don't share your sentiment right now. Oh well. I did the best I could in the situation in which I found myself, and that is all I can ever do - even if my best sometimes looks like utter chaos. I am doing my best right now and when I learn how to do better, then I will do better.

@Former-Member Thank you for doing the catering for the clean-up crew.

@Zoe7 I super super SUPER love your cleaning outfit.

I can't say I've actually contributed to the clean-up yet, so I am super glad to see that you are on the job @Zoe7. I can't see myself being in a space to start on the cleanup for a while yet.

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Just a little something I threw together for this super giant clean-up little turtle

You don't need to worry about cleaning anything up yourself right now @Phoenix_Rising - the clean-up crew will be here as long as it takes

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Love this thread 👍@PR ✴✴✴✴✴

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@Phoenix_Rising @Zoe7 I saw this photo and thought of you two straight away. No key but a combination lock!!

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@Former-Member I superly duperly like that picture.

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{Sticks head out of ocean and surveys the storm damage across Forum Land. Nope, still not able to help with the clean up. Hopefully soon}.

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