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All storms pass

All storms pass

Good afternoon everybody,

As many of you are aware, there was a VERY big storm that swept across Forum Land last night. It started out on the ocean, but being such an extra giant storm, it rolled on quite a way inland too. Indeed, methinks the storm was so big, a tsunami may have crashed into the coast of Forum Land.

However, for the six billion four hundred and fifty five thousand nine hundred and seventy-first time, I have discovered that all storms pass. Even very very VERY big ones. There is going to be some cleaning up to do after this storm, and that might take a little while. But that's ok. The cleaning up can wait until the final remnants of this storm have passed.

Can I just say, the absolute height of a storm is a super good time to practice some DBT skills. It is HARD. It is so so SO hard. But it works. I am living proof that it works. Things got a little dodgy last night, but I still have a 100% success rate of surviving each day living with BPD. I have been on this adventure for more than twenty years now. I know how hard it is. I know how very very VERY hard it is. But with a great big toolkit of different skills and one or two amazing human beings (or carebears or butterflies) in your corner, it is survivable.

Today is still very tricky in my world because of all the debris floating around after the storm. The clean-up won't start happening today. It may not even happen tomorrow, or the next day, or even the day after that. And that's ok. There's no rush. Step 1 is to stay alive. Step 2 is to avoid doing anything that will complicate an already very complicated situation. That is all you have to do during the storm. Everything else will follow in time.

All is well - even when it isn't. I'm super glad I have my DBT skills toolkit. If you want to build your DBT skills toolkit, you might like to come and visit here: Let's do DBT How's THAT for shameless advertising.

I am Phoenix_Rising. Yesterday was hard, today is hard, tomorrow is likely to be hard, and there's a very good chance that the day after that will be hard too. But it won't be hard forever, and all I need to deal with right now, is right now. I can do this, I've got this - and so do you fellow storm-beaten Forumite!

@CheerBear @Zoe7 @Former-Member @Former-Member @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Former-Member

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That's a really cool picture @Former-Member 🙂 In my head I read it as not-friend and highly valued acquaintance haha. Google usually comes through with almost anything, but "not-friend" is not a particuarly common term 😉

I hope this afternoon is ok for you Nell23. I was thinking of you last night too.

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@Former-Member A LOT of self-care is happening around here today too. I'm just floating around amongst all the debris in the ocean...and that's ok. At least @Zoe7 found the keys to the giant nutella jar and the stash of nutella.

@CheerBear. True. Google is pretty impressive, but sometimes even it doesn't speak turtle so well.

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@CheerBear you know how I was waiting around for a yes or no when the storm hit? Well I got a yes...but now my brain is too puddled to post the post. It is totally drafted, but I still don't want to actually post it with a puddled brain. Do you reckon I could post it over the weekend, or should I wait until Monday. Maybe I should wait and just spend the weekend getting to work on the next one. Yay for being able to save drafts and not having to impulsively post!

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I reckon it's totally whatever you want to do there, but I think I'd wait until Monday if it was me @Phoenix_Rising. I don't know why and probably can't give a good reason for that though.

It's so good being able to work on drafts and I am a big fan of being able to put things on hold this way 🙂

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hope this afternoon is ok for you @Phoenix_Rising

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Hi @Phoenix_Rising

I was reading the posts on - ah yes - Wednesday night - I don't know anything much about the article but I am so pleased P_R that you have 100% survival ratings yourself - as do I - had although I have not been hit by a tsunami I have had a storm surge here which is why I have taken so long to get around everyone who was involved with the support process

And everyone did will and if I can find it - big tick and or medals for everyone

Well done - and P_R - I know I have a phoenix somewhere -

Yesssss!!! - and you really are magnificient

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@Phoenix_Rising @CheerBear @Owlunar @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Zoe7

Refreshments for the clean up crew

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Thanks for the sustenance @Former-Member - we are definitely going to need it to help keep our strength up for the massive clean up job

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thanks @Former-Member

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Hi @Former-Member

I am so pleased you are still with us - I know you got hit when huge waves washed over people the other night - now I was just reading but I was concerned you thought you might leave

There is a feeling among people - myself included - that when the flack starts to fly that we feel the need - and this is not necessary but I guess it's a form of self-protection

So it is really great you are here still - I am so please with that

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