I dont know how much longer i can go on like this

@BunniekinsI posted a big write up on the "Darkness Surrounds me thread" I did tag you in it!!

@Former-Member Cool! 😛

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@outlander wrote:

severe depression, severe GAD (generalised anxiety disorder) complex PTSD, and borderline personality disorder @Bunniekins im in the too hard basket. ive stopped asking or help because i cant figure out my own answers. and if i cant then how can anyone else?

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@outlander I hope this doesn't sound harsh but I'm going to call you on your comment that you've been put in the too hard basket. My understanding was that you were offered a place on a waiting list for a DBT program. DBT is recognised as one of the most effective treatments for BPD/complex trauma. It is a bazillion percent ok to choose not to take up the offer of DBT, but you can't then say you were put in the too hard basket. You have chosen thus far not to avail yourself of the treatment you have been offered. Again, that is a bazillion percent ok, but it is definitely not the same thing as being put in the too hard basket.

As someone who truly has been put in the too hard basket by many people (i.e. had a psychiatrist refuse to see me, had numerous psychologists terminate contact with me - including my turtle whisperer just last week), I feel a little frustrated that you are saying this when you have been offered a place in a program and chosen not to accept it.

I absolutely 100% respect your choice not to do DBT, but I do believe you need to own that as a choice rather than telling yourself or others that you've been put in the too hard basket.

@Bunniekins @outlander logging off for a bit. Kids are going nuts at each other!! God it is only the start of holiday!!

@Phoenix_Risingim on the DBT waiting list for individual therapy. the other one i was told to do was group therapy and it wasnt in my local area. it was elsewhere becasue my local area doesnt run them often. im on the wait list for that as well but minimum 8 months now as they already have other groups running.

ok im not in the too hard basket, just limited options now. no therapist has helped, they make it worse when the dont help but im not going back right now. how can anyone else help if i cant help myself

no probs @Former-Member take care..

@Former-Member No problem talk later. xx

Hi @outlander,

Do you know when you might be able to start the DBT individual therapy? I remember you saying at one point that there was a 3 month waiting list. I can imagine that 8 months feels like forever to start a group, but starting with individual therapy may be a bit less daunting anyway, maybe? I know things are superly duperly tough for you right now, but having limited options right now is definitely a better space to be in, then being tossed in the too hard basket. Time goes by. There is hope.

It sounds like something else has gone awry in your world this afternoon. That super sucks.

@Phoenix_Risingthey couldnt give me a timeline on the individual stuff. im really not ready for groups but who knows in 8 months time...

im trying to find a dbt therapsit but im really not having much luck. i even contacted a few that didnt say qualifications and they said they do cbt. i dont want to do cbt. its shit. it dont work on me.

yes somethings alwasy going astray in this friggin house. its driving me to the point i could even end up moving out of this house. my sisters yet again have invaded my room. i yelled. i dont yell and told them to get out and stop coming int here as theres no need and then they got angry at me whihc then turned into an argument. thought it got into their heads then what does mum go and do?' give them permission to go in there'

nack story- my mum brough her bf a frish for xmas and is leacing it with me until the day as she doesnt want to rui the surprise. i said put it in my room so that no one else touches it. that was fine but after that why did they keep going in there. theyve had it basically all day,

why go into my room and then i ask them and then tel them not to and what happens they never listen. they have absolutly no respect for me whatsoever