Night Shift

Hi @Shaz51 how are you doing tonight?

Hey @artee

Hopefully I can take one worry off your mind .... the antibiotic medications for pneumonia now are very specific and fast acting .... your grand-niece should be fine soon.

That is a lot of worry on your plate, and it is very wearing having a husband who needs constant attention or serves up put-downs constantly. One step at a time though ... you are moving on from the caravan ....

Hopefully all the tangles will work themselves out progressively. We are here any time you want to vent ...

It's good to hear from you anyway 😊 Its been a while, but of course now we know why ....

Congrats on your house, even though it hasn't all quite fallen into place yet ❣

@Faith-and-Hope

Update on the g/niece is she's a bit better, thanks to the antibiotics. I feel for her, I've had 2 bouts and they're pretty terrible.

There is a silver lining, sort of - I used to be an optimist - I have realised, that hubby's constant anger isn't his frustration, as all counsellors have suggested, but instead, his way of controlling me. How they get so devious with ABI I'll never know when they can't recall what you said a minute before. Subject of discussion on an ABI specific board (acquired brain injury). He knows I'll shut down at confrontation, from childhood abuse, so he uses anger to stop me questioning or telling him to do anything, or just to remind me he's in control. There is not one tiny bit left of the man I married.

I'm hearing you @artee .... and it is really tough .... you manage so well, but I hope understanding this difference helps you to reclaim your former optimistic outlook on life.

My hubby's eating disorder involves a lot of control issues .. and bad temper is one of the methods he uses to control others and manipulate outcomes to serve his interests, and / or the disorder. He is much easier to live with since we made the communal decision to behave towards him as if the eating disorder diesnt exist when we are in his presence, because we can't do anything at all about it while he is in denial, and hostile at any suggestion the e.d. exists.

We have developed some strategies to try to contain it as much as possible, but the rest of the time we have to field dramas in the moment, or even keep ourselves out of his way. Some of that is because he delegates our time to supporting his eating and exercise regimen, given half the chance, as if we were personal staff. We live in hope he will be recovered eventually.

Once your house situation is sorted, maybe you can start working out how to settle your hubby into different activities or forms of care to allow you some much-needed you-time .... maybe there is book-reading at the local library, or lawn-bowls, or a seniors club with bingo and other games ....

We can live in hope ....

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Hi @Pinkeye

Hi @Pinkeye 🌷

Hi @Former-Member 😊