Night Shift

I like that you just mentioned two of my favourite words .,.. art and studio ❣

We still have another week of school holidays, so no, no routine again yet, other then semi-regular meal times. My Dad is becoming stronger and more independent by the day, which is great. By the time school starts again I will be confident about leaving him to go in the school run ...

Crossed swords with D1 this morning, and she let fly with the sort of stuff that comes out of her Dad's mouth when he is being abusive .... couldn't quite believe it in the moment .... and am still feeling bruised tonight, if I think about it .... so I'm not thinking about it .... I'm on here with you guys and don't have to hear or think about that sort of crap .... 💦

She is under pressure with the wedding prep, an anstey fiancé, just back from a week with the younger baby dragons and WH over east, and it probably quite terrified that our situation won't hold together properly in the lead-up to the wedding .... all good reasons for being uptight, but no excuse for what she said ... not okay, but we'll get back to that in the next couple of days and get it sorted !!

Sorry, that was my little rant for the night ...

Other than that, well, with that provocation I turned it into a pyjama day .... so rather quiet actually 😏

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It's probably one of the hardest things being this age @Faith-and-Hope. We can get hurt from our families from both ends, our parents and our adult kids who we think should know better. Sorry that happened to you. I'm really glad for you that you have another week of no routines. Hopefully more time to chill and recharge and maybe do some art. I'm going to have to invent ways to describe my kids and partners now too😀 Take care, sending hugs I'm about to go to bed😊💜

Thanks for the understanding @Former-Member

And yeah, I'm off to bed too ...

G'night

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Hi @Former-Member, thanks for the shoutout. I am completely out of touch with what's been going on here the last few days. I've been taking my own advice and taking a bit of a break from the forum. But I saw your message to me and @Faith-and-Hope and then went and followed up with your post about your 'elephant'. Good on you for getting it out there! I think others have said this, but I think these labels can sometimes get us into trouble in themselves. To me, and it's clear so many others here, you are just a really wonderful person regardless of what label someone has projected onto you. Hope you sleep well tonight now that you've released things. I'm off to bed too shortly (I hope, hehe). Hugs!

It does not matter if he is a great handyman. It will always be handy to have a few skills in life. professors have houses too. My ex and I were quite intellectual but each had a handy streak ... nothing perfect, but it was enough for us to renovate and double our money on our house. Nothing was perfect. The first house never is.

She is lucky if she is getting a studio, so that is a good reward for her effort. A couple of years ago, I had been thinking of doing it with our garage and hoping my son would get enthusiastic and get handy. Nah .. he was worried the heating and lighting would be substandard. I was going to research all that ... but not interested .. so it must not be his time ... at the moment he is really happy having found lots of serious good guides for composition ... so I am proud he is tinkering creatively at the piano and enthusiastic about life ... and his projects ... they are just not practical ones ... maybe he wont need to do the things that our generation had to do ...

@Faith-and-Hope Female to female can be so hurtful. I hope you do work it out with her. Sometimes they mimic what they see without thought. Consequences are important, even if it is that they see they have damaged trust ... you are a whirlwind ... and know all the emotional stuff ... but still ... we feel it when it happens to us ... take care ... glad your dad is doing better.

Hi @Mazarita, thanks for your response, teared up a bit😢 (In a good way). I'm hoping you'll still hang around here too from time to time. I think I'm going to discuss the use of the forum in therapy today along with all the other stuff from coming undone again. I'm curious to see if that diagnosis was what you had deduced😊. I hope you are well (legs are working better, oops that sounds like they just need an oil😝) and get to a few activities this week. It has been awful weather here to go out. I've been a complete wuss. Anyway take care, I hope to 'see you soon'😊💜

hi @Appleblossom, I always enjoy reading your posts, re the last one I hadn't thought I should encourage him to try to be handy even if he's not, that's not a bad idea. I do think the generations now do tend to pay for services not in their field of expertise. I dont see it as a bad thing though if you can afford it. It's good to hear your son has something that he is passionate about and fills his life. It's so good he has you to share that passion too. I also read your post on the fear of intimacy thread and it made me smile and nod yes to much of what you wrote😄 .

hi @Former-Member Thanks for all your support when I'm on my roller coaster both here and on other threads. It always makes me feel less alone. I think I owe you a response as to whether I live somewhere where there is nature and the answer is yes and no. I live on a busy main road now and it's not quiet or peaceful but across the road from my house is a huge 266 hectare recreation park so I don't have to go far to get to some nature and tranquility but I have to be good at climbing hills so my fitness needs a bit of work to use it better. I grow native plants to encourage birds. My garden consists of nativeplants, potted flowers, a sprinkle of veggies and herbs is my solace for now. I hope today finds you well.

hi @comet I'm sorry I dropped off again. Thanks for your support as always. I hope that today finds you well and in a good mood. Today I'm ok but it is Monday which is usually a good day of the week for me.

Thanks to @Decadian, @Shaz51, @Former-Member @eth @Jacques for the mentions too. I hope you are all ok today and I hope to catch up soon.

Thats my wrap for this morning. I hope everyone is well. Sending hugs to all 💜😊

Hi Jacques - great to see you

You are doing so much work - you will be tired

I'm sorry your Mum had to spend so much time in the ED - but so glad you could stay with her

All the best @Jacques - I have missed you

Decadian

@Former-Member to tell the truth I feel so so ....blessed with this friend who I never htought had it in him to be able to give back...I never never expected it.

My artwork is in motion and it's very squished by my Mum's treatment to me.

Havent you seen all my latest artwork? Ille try and pull it out......

Um....let me see.....

I feel amazing feelngs of...peace when I see @Faith-and-Hope roses

@Former-Member......sorry half a block of chocolate?? okay I must admit I'm impressed but I'm doing one block......