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Night Shift

MazaritaSenior Contributor

Night Shift

Since I am awake at 4am I thought I'd start this thread for those of us who have trouble sleeping and might find it helpful to have a place to go to chat. Whatever gets you through the night is alright.

To get the ball rolling, I'll just say that I enjoyed being part of the Topic Tuesday discussion tonight. I wish it was possible for these events to be weekly rather than monthly. Either way, thanks SANE and all the people I've met on here over recent months.

Edited June 2016 and February 2017: Night Shift is now open 24 hours a day. To join in, just click through to the last page of the thread at the top right of this post to get to the latest message.

Edited April 2017 and June 2017: For the sake of better communications between members here, I am adding that this thread is meant to be a caring, kind and gentle place of sharing. Humour is welcome, as long as its not unkindly directed towards other members. Hope your time in this chat thread is rewarding.

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DecadianSenior Contributor

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Like - love it @Former-Member

I love it when my cat gets a letter from the vet addressed to her personally - care of me - telling her it's time to tell her mum it's time for her to go and take her to see the vet to have a chat about her kitty-things - esp as she is getting older 🙂

You Mum sending Smakoes to your dog - ah - is she trying to tell you something?

Can't imagine what though

Decadian

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Unknown userMember

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Poor mums admitted hospital with angina today, dad crashed the car Tues & they can't find his insurance papers or remember who they're with, my brothers (argumentative, paranoid, pot smoking) with untreated schizophrenia the only ones around. Mum pays them to be. I can't handle them & mums abuse well. Need to go be there for them but can't. Hate this dysfunctional family crap.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member

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DecadianSenior Contributor

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Ah - so do I @Former-Member

And I keep out of it

There is nothing you can do to help - you have got enough on your plate - let them work it out

I am sorry about your mother - but I guess you already know that entering into all of this will make life hard for yourself

It rough your Mum is in the middle of it all - but when pot-smoking - untreated schizophrenia and whatever - and your Mum's abuse are all right in the mix - going there is enabling it

But you know that right

But whatever you do - this is your safe place

Ah - families - who'd be without one?

The Royals have a habit of marrying cousins - and not just them - even my own family tree is up there

Thinking of you

Decadian

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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Hi @eth

This is me too.......catching up on posts but....I get caught up on nightshift and then............

I'm trying to get on carer too because of some help I need.

How are ya? This ear virus is definately sweeping around Perth.....I got it but I still went to work.

Besides that...... all is good......my husband wants to lie down next to me and talk.......

I'lle con him into doing take 5 puzzles with me. We buy them to help our brains keep active......

PP

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member

You have choices about how you take it ....

If you think she is just being batty, and you don't find any real offense in it, have a laugh to yourself and feed them to Claypan ...... he won't know the difference .......

If you do think she is being offensive you can give them away to someone else for their dog, or drop them in a Salvos bin for someone else's dog, or even throw them into the nearest rubbish bin.

You don't have to wear anyone else's expectations, as surely as if they were clothes that didn't fit you or suit your taste ......

Your feelings are important, and you need to honour them, especially as so many other people in your life don't ........

Be good to yourself, and decide what yourself needs of these doggie treats.

Hugs

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member

Put yourself in the picture with your family's current woes, as someone who needs caring for too, and decide what you need .....

Your family don't rush to suppor you when you need someone there, and just because you are caring and able, doesn't mean you need to rush to their aid if it means you are worse off for it ....

While you don't have others around you caring for you, you have to be your own carer and do what is in your own best interests - it's not a two way street you're on.

If you really want to be there for your Dad, that's different, because you are honouring your own needs, but be careful not to put everyone else first to the point where you are not valuing yourself just as much. It's not selfish to put yourself first in this instance ...... it's necessary. You may well be putting yourself in harm's way to try to help them, and you are clearly stating that you are not up to it at the moment .......

You are valued @Former-Member. Step up for you.

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MazaritaSenior Contributor

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Hard day here today. Slept all day, woke up a few times briefly and read messages here. Then was overwhelmed with tiredness again and went back to bed. I've managed to stay awake for a couple of hours so far to watch Star Trek Voyager, and talked briefly with a friend on Facebook about how I was feeling. He rang straight after that but I couldn't answer the phone, just not up to talking in person to anyone aside from partner, who is out at our friend's place tonight. I was invited too but just wasn't up to going. It's one of those times where I feel so poorly I'd usually just surrender to my feelings in mute resignation and go back to bed. But I thought I'd come here instead in the hopes of finding some engagement that will help keep me awake for a bit longer. Seems many of us are struggling with difficult stuff tonight.

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plasmoSenior Contributor

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nap nap

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Mazarita

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