Night Shift

Hi @Crazy_Bug_Lady,

I've been asleep while you were going through what's been happening this morning. Hopefully you are in contact with a moderator now.

Just to add to that, I wanted to suggest that, if the doctor you saw this morning said to go back on to 1 tablet if you weren't coping, then I would do that. Especially since your PDoc is not available to you. I think it's pretty clear you are not coping with this particular reduction of medication. This seems even more clear, given that you had no problem when you reduced it one time before. That suggests to me that this time the reduction is taking things just a bit too low for what you can handle at this time. Once you do get to see your PDoc again, you can then discuss it and, if need be, start reducing again (perhaps this time much more slowly so as to give your system a chance to process the change a lot better).

Obviously any advice from medication from me needs to be taken with some grains of salt. I am just basing what I am saying on my own personal experience of situations like this many times before. But it seems to me the doctor you saw this morning did actually give you clear medical advice in telling you to bring the dose back up to what it was. Wishing you the very best with this.

And back to you @Former-Member ...... calming vibes your way😊💜💐

My S2 failed multiple subjects in Year 11, then picked up enough to get over the line in Year 12 ..... hang in there ❣

At the end of the day they are going to do what they are going to do, and really we are just walking along (or riding the roller-coaster) with them. It helps to know that High School and High School results are not everything .... having had your older ones come through already you will have that understanding on board.

@Former-Member

They are not as big as they think they are ....... ❣

Hi @Faith-and-Hope and @Former-Member

I really understand what you are saying about your sons' failure to deal with school work - I had the same thing with my boy - and he was highly intelligent too

He could really argue a point - and one sorrowful thing is that he would have made an excellent court lawyer - barrister - and his father and I would have done all we could to have given him that education

But you all know his story

For whatever reason your boys are failing is a problem - and when I was in a Tough Love 12 Step Programme we had to learn whose problem it was

Sheesh - I know - as hard as it is - and for whatever reason - if your boys want an education they have to do the work themselves - and yes - like my son - maybe they can't

So I am with you too - the failure of an intelligent young person failing at school - esp in Years 11 and 12 - is heart-breaking

But - as I had to leave school early - it was not my choice - I did achive as a mature age student - there is always that option if your boys can't or won't do it right now

It's up to them 😞 - and this is so hard - so hard - for us to accept

Decadian

@Decadian I agree with so much of what you said. I guess I know that I'm also feeling so much guilt for this son as his life's circumstances have made it harder for him than his brothers, although some would argue that he has been my spoiled baby too. He has had very little stability and predictability in his life for the past few years. Last year was a massive upheaval for him and this year too. It was discussed in my counselling session yesterday and it was acknowledged that its almost impossible for him to walk away from all this unscathed. However I don't give up hope. Both his older 2 brothers have done things the hard way too because they didn't have focus in high school but have made up for it now. This one really wants to do a trade and he will also have to get there the hard way but hopefully with a bit more support than he's been getting ( much of it my fault).

i also wanted to say that I think it's good that you can share your son with us in this space @Decadian

ive been meaning to ask how you are feeling too I hope your back pain isn't any worse with the weather I've been thinking of you😊💜

@Faith-and-Hope I have had delayed response for this post as well to you (Just numer 143). I meant your daughters medical issues before. I read your post the other day talking about what her life and therefore what yours holds in the future because of those medical issues. It broke my heart to read it and I wanted to respond but was struggling at the time. You have had such a hard road and sounds like it will continue on for a long time yet. All I can think of to say was that she was born to the right mother. You will always give her what she needs to live a fulfilling life but I can imagine it pulls at your heartstrings too from time to time. I really admire and respect the job you will do for a life time. Thinking of you, sending best wishes for strength always😊💜

hi all,

Just before I scroll down seperate news to all;

1. my oldest son has decided to begin to take anti depressants to settle the voices he says are in his head.

2. Everything I am doing like writing novel....studying the bible are all things I'vewanted to do for years and years. I've been too scared to do them because I always hear my Mum's disapproving words no matter what I do.

3. Just to write, I've known @Mazarita for a little while now; Like @Jacques......or @lisajane and this group works. We are respectful and that means the world to me !! You know it does'nt matter who else acts like what else nut WE need to lead the way in being respectful.

This is NOt meshowing off....but I used to hang out in this community centre based around homeless. The other day I went there and I heard out of the blue....no swear words but the workers speaking my.....different "swear words" like "Golly Gee Wow. Or Jeepers Kreepers instead of swearing. I felt good for about 30 secs and moved on.........

Now I have nothing more to write except; I am struggling to keep my eyes awake..........

@Mazarita are you doing more work with him ??

@Former-Member

Wow - that is wonderful - thanks for writing that

I am so glad I found this website - I am not alone as a parent who had to struggle - there are other people who understand

But whatever we do I believe that we do what is possible for the best at the time - and we can't go back and undo any of it so we have to deal with this as we are - now - today - and today is all we have

And Today can last just a long time - it is certainly enough to live one day at a time

Yes - it is good that I can share about my son in this space - in fact - it is the first place I have been able to talk about him - except on Life Line -

Today I am doing things rough - I woke up early and had breakfast and went back to sleep and woke up with a rotten migraine - although it is backing down now - I don't have any stress problems where I have control over my life - it's stuff I have with Centrelink and my toxic sister (how does she know I am having a bad time - I ingore her - but I think she watches the dates - and "Oh - look - it's time for her to have a bad time - what kind of message shall I send that will upset her?"

She did it when my mother was dying, when she died, on my son's birthday and now - his anniversary is coming up again. She has no idea that she is a thorn in my flesh - and I won't allow her into my life.

Maybe she is curious about me - the big sister she never could control

Hey @Former-Member - I read some more on Personality Disorders - and my sister is still doing the things that worked for her when she was a little kid with her fingers up my nose - and I have re-invented myself over and over - and know I feel this way today and this is a bad grief day and I have been so much better this year -

But - thanks for asking how I am - and I hope you are okay - whatever it is - it is not good to feel life being so tough - but I am listening

And our boys - however things happened - we all have a role to play in the family drama - but I don't think we are always the cause

Life throws us curved balls and we do the best we can - and I am still in my jammies at nearly 3.00pm - and I do all I can to manage on days like this

"Nobody told me there'd be days like this -

Most peculiar Mama"

[John Lennon]

@Crazy_Bug_Lady

That is good news - you are being heard.

And it seems your doctor really cares because you have an increase in medication and eat chocolate

What a brilliant idea - I think I might just have some of that myself

Decadian - and all the best - keep posting - I am listening