Night Shift

I don't know where to write this so I thought I would put it here, if it's wrong maybe the @NikNik can move it.

I am so anxious tonight, the panic button has hit me big time. I know I wrote somewhere on here (another thread) abut my 20 yr old son going overseas for 3 1/2 weeks on his own.

Well he is leaving this Sunday, in 5 days time. I do know and understand that kids leave home when they are adults and i am so lucky to have 3 children still at home. I know i will be sad when my kids leave home but also excited for them as they begin the next journey in their life.

But when it's the first time a child is going overseas and on their own - OMG i am stressing. what if something happens, too many what if's.

i know I can't have them all at home with me forever and i wouldn't want that either. Actually now that i think about it - i was married at 20!!!!

It is normal for a mum to worry and stress, i think we as parents never stop worrying. But it is not helping my anxiety and depression.

How do i cope for the next 3 1/2 weeks? i am feeling very emotional thinking about sunday and going to the airport to see my son off.

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@Teej wrote:

@Faith-and-Hope I forgot this is your continuing week of madness. Am I right that you don't slow down until after the celebrations on Saturday night? Thinking of you buzzing everywhere.

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Hi @Former-Member

Sort of ...... I think we live in a perpetual state of madness sometimes .....

Yes, it's a flat out week until Saturday night, then another family occasion on Sunday, then three days later my father has knee replacement surgery, and will be staying with us for six weeks of recovery .....

About that time is S2's 21st !

Then begins all the big, fat, Greek wedding mayhem ..... !

Stay tuned ..... please ...... cos you guys are really helping me to stay focussed and take one day at a time. My baby dragons are still getting a bit out of hand here and there, so it's really great to tune in here and touch base with everyone, especially when I'm feeling a bit teary or crappy ..... happened on and off today.

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Hi @BlueBay

I can hear that you are fearing the worst, and picturing the worst, for your son while he is away ......

Can you close your eyes, breathe deeply, and hope the best, and picture the best, for your son while he is away ?

Can you write a positive script for your hope, just to balance out the negative script you have written according to your fears ?

If you can look to one, and then the other, and back again, perhaps you can see more possibilities than just the ones you fear .......

We all have fears, that is usual to all of us, but we need to work at balancing out our fears with hope, and joy, and peace, as well. It takes practice, so maybe practice a little bit at a time ........

Can you ask your son to send you a postcard every three days or so while he is away ? That way you have these little contacts from him, for this first time he is travelling overseas, and they can be little joys that you wait for, and get to keep, sharing images of where he is going and what he is doing. He only needs to write a sentence on each one, or a few words, so he doesn't feel like it's homework to write a full postcard every time .....

Would he do that for you ? Can you ask him to ?

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Hi @plasmo, @Faith-and-Hope and anyone else who is around,

How's it going tonight?

@plasmo, sometimes sitting around especially makes me want to nap nap. Also it's the winter solstice today, shortest day of the year. Most hibernated time of year we get. I napped today too (also catching up on last night's lateness).