Hi @artee
This is an horrific situtation - I am not at all sure if I could handle it myself -
I have been divorced for over 25 years - and before that just shared the house with my then-husband and I have learned a lot since - and feel I was unfair a lot of the time - but still - we can only start where we are
So I had a boyfriend for quite a few years - never lived with him and he had a brain injury too - after a motor bike accident - what they call an Acquired Brain Injury - and put up with his nonsense for a long time until I realised he always liked to set people up to fight - and this was hard but I broke with him too and that was along time ago
So I do have a little insight and wonder what to suggest and think - better not.
Though one thing we say to each other here is that we have to attend to our own health. Are you seeing anyone about your PTSD from childhood abuse? Having all this anger and gaslighting around - and being micro-managed would be so hard on you - I don't think I could tolerate it.
And yes - I do "get" it and understand how frustrating this must be and how degrading also - and how do you manage all this?
It must be so devastating for you to have the man you loved changed overnight from one person to another. Have you had any kind of payout from the hospital about that? At least you have been able to move from a caravan to a house but it seems that your husband needs more professional help of the kind that you can provide yourself - and this must be a horribly tense and unhappy situation - not just fo you but for him
I know my boyfriend was very strong in overcoming the results of his head-injury - and never gave up on trying to be better - but as time passed I found his increasing smoking the green stuff because a pattern that my ex-husband had been just sullen and silent and lazy - I did not like being alone in a relationship - and it seems you are alone in yours. I do understand that. And I mean that our partner is supposed to be the other half of a team - and when this doesn't happen - we are pulling the cart alone - not at all good
And at least the guys in my life were sullen - I did not have them hounding after me
You had a wonderful night alone - I am glad you did - and maybe you will get some more - but I really think you need some kind of respite - that is all I can suggest after rattling away here - deleting what I have said several times here
But yes - I do understand how horribly lonely and isolated you must be
Please keep in touch @artee - maybe we can't help but we can be understanding
Decadian
