@TAB I have tried to lead by doing. I encouraged you way back when you first started to post, and your stories need to be told, but I "feel the need" need to rewind a bit to the conversation on this thread we had a few days back re my medical situation. I am pretty slow in many ways, but it seems you were "having a go" at me again, talking about porkies etc, and "pretending" it was just general. You are far too smart in your other interactions, I may have let you off the hook too easily. You may not have been aware of how difficult it has been for me to get good relevant medical care.
Light-hearted stirring can be good etc... and I see you have worked on rapport with individuals here, but I have seen too much pot stirring wear people down and push them out of groups and further and further out into the margins. I would not have harrassed you about bad diet whilst you were having your tooth issues. I have felt a lot of "kick the cripple" moments in my life and I have finally got back enough fight to yell out about it now .. and not just recoil and crawl back in the corner with a whimper.
The getting people to laugh etc can be great, but when dealing with complicated situations do you begin to understand why I may try and be a bit more precise in my language. (it was not about wearing the mortar & pestle or showing off) There have been far too many misunderstandings in my life that added up to a great deal of things not being funny. I had a bf from 16-20 who was a hoot and big on his popularity, but actually a horror for me and my sibs. I guess we were his butts ... ha ha ha. He is dead now of liver disease, alcoholism and dengue fever.
I dont want you to stop posting or go away .. but I would like you to "get" what I am trying to say. I am not bloody pretentious, but hanging around his sort really put me off the rock and roll cadre for a while.
I have also worked hard to get to a stage where I can enjoy my own natural sense of humour. We certainly all benefit from a good laugh, especially on this forum.
