Hi @Faith-and-Hope
@plasmo All comments by trollers need to be given the flick. Dont take it into yourself. It is really important to distinguish between the good and useless self critical ... we need to be our own best friends and also to call out our weaknesses .. etc ...
Eg I know I am too formal .. then I try and be jokey and dont always get it right ... there are advantages to a casual tone in keeping things light and friendlyand the formal tones help break the ice and are good for serious issues.
A long time ago I thought I did not have any sense of humour .. but at least I know I can laugh now .. even if my kids dont approve of what tickles my funny bone ... thats their perogative.
@Kurra
You go girl. Bullying is no longer acceptable. Let it be seen somehow so that management has to take action.
Good on you re the RUOK day. I agree with you .. for some it may be superficial .. but for every person it helps ... the benefits are huge.
I tried to get my last choir to do something for RUOK day last year and they refused even though both presidents of the choir work in the MH field. 
and other musical enterprises are advertising it on their flyers etc 
... I was pushed out by a choir bully and I had to up my meds. So was it speaking out once quietly in my seat, and sending one email about MI, both polite, that meant I had to endure another bully and exclusion experience?
Talk about STIGMA.
I know both prezzies of the choir would not allow themselves to consider that. One is a pdoc and the other works for Berry St. They werent the bully ... but they allowed the bully to reign and blamed me. I then said it was not fair as I was musically adequate, had paid fees, provided food and contiributed significantly to fundraisers and social events ... the prez arranged to have my fees refunded which was pretty darn insulting actually .. I doubt the lady who started the choir would be impressed ... hmmm ...
Maybe things were souring as their music librarian of 20 years, left, and showed up in my new choir. He is an engineer and good value. ... so next week maybe we should poke our heads into their hall ... I only heard we were going to same place tonight.
I was on the forum at the time it happened last year and was very distressed.
BULLYING re MI in the workplace and the community ought to stop. There is a lot of work to do.
Next week my new choir is rehearsing at the same venue but now you have reminded me of the RUOK thing .. and coincidence it is the week before ... hmmm ...
Anyway thats my story ... I really hope your bully experience resolves to your satisfaction. I hope your RUOK day is a success too.
Sorry for repeat rant ... for people who were here last year .. but I really believe many MI issues start with bullying.
