Night Shift

No probs @Former-Member ....

It can be hard working out the balance, particularly if the others were a bit more stable coming through ... and this one is floundering a bit ....

You want to help, but you can't do it all for them.

I hope it has given you a bit more peace of mind just knowing you're not the only one going through it .... but look after that mood drop ... that's probably the best way you can help him ... by showing him that it's important to manage your moods ....

Big hugs ....

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Yes so true @Faith-and-Hope ..I feel a little agitated by slight implication school is making about my S2..I've been looking back at myself, I.e. children often show traits of what we were like too. It's so hard to get it right. Hmm I have to try hard to harness my own 'feeling angry'. It's a long road as parents in any situation that we travel. We are all trying our best, & sometimes it's all we can do. @Former-Member I hope you start to feel bit better with good listener's about. My partner seems to be racking up a weekend of activity. In all honesty it's the last thing I feel like. Sometimes we just need peace.✌😊

Hello everybody .. just popping in .. glad to see you ..

Hey @TAB I'm getting that you are feeling antsy and challenging ..

loveable larrikin and pot stirring was a big part of the kulcha I grew up in ... it HAS a PLACE ... is good for a laugh and lightens the tension as someone already pointed out ... but as far as I am concerned its best when everything is hunky dory .. and we are a big happy gang ... heading off to a game or a concert or to a friend's place ... I draw lines when ... it slips too low ... it can be destructive ..seen real live people knocked about and end up dying from an excess of that style of interaction... there has to be more.

I have found that it helps to have lots of ways of being ... am a bit of a chameleon .. but thats part & parcel of my constantly changing and diverse childhood... 20 schools etc ... but not cos I was norty ... that came latah ..

When we are celebrating our loner ... its fine to be a rolling stone ... but if that is endless the freedom becomes hollow ... when we have been alone for a while we may not believe that others expression of caring is genuine ... and challenge & challenge and take a chomp out of heels and butts ... I have felt that sometimes ... I can also kick butt .. but am ambivalent about Amercianisms too ... like you

.. dont bite the hand that feeds luv.

I do hope you find a tribe ... take care Apple ... not always blossoming .. but sometimes an ugly core chomped right down to the nub. ...

the censor system didnt let me do a rhyme on that one ...

Hi @Former-Member The mood thing sucks lots. I tried so hard to not go down but I guess there are a few things going on almost unconsciously which are just throwing their two cents in like the anniversary of when everything changed for me is coming up, and I've been playing it up in my head that I've got past that but I guess there will always be thoughts even if they are not too bad to change mood at this time of the year. Yesterday I had an encounter that took me back there as much as I tried to talk myself out of it but the timing with the first anniversary being in a couple of days and then the next one at the beginning of next month was a bit uncanny. Do you have anniversary dates of the stuff that happened to you that spur strong emotional responses? I'm really ok but I think I tried to overcompensate feeling ok which bought on this crash. I'm now up and out of bed at almost mid afternoon. I also agree and know @Faith-and-Hope would too about how much school can affect our kids. I did have it easier with the others which makes it more frustrating. I think I need to let go for this year and regain strength for if the :pile_of_poo: hits the fan next year and he doesn't have an apprenticeship and has to go back to repeat yr 11. Keep strong @Former-Member. My kids weren't affected by violence but emotionally they were affected by my ex. It changed their lives forever too. I know you have your battles on all fronts too. I hope your weekend isn't too busy and you get some you time where no one demands your attention for a bit. Take care 💜😊

Hey @Appleblossom I've been thinking all morning a little along the same lines as you for this.

@TAB I gather the lid blew off a bit last night. I'm sorry I fell asleep before reading your post. I really wanted you to be able to let go of what was dragging you down and you did but there was no one around to respond and that sucks sometimes. I really did care and asked because I cared. It appears that you have struggles just like all of us, perhaps it would help to find a way to talk about those here like you tried last night rather than self destructing and possibly hurting others in the process. I know I've self destructed on here inappropriately before too so I get it. Again I'm sorry I wasn't there to support you last night when you let it out, I really was exhausted by then and sleep came quickly in the end. Please don't let stop you again. Hoping that today finds you better rested and feeling ok. Thinking of you, sending hugs and best wishes 💜😊

@Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member I have learned a lot through my coming undone that society places so many conventions on us that make our lives harder and are often untrue. Education, health and parenting seem to be the ones that cause the greatest harm at times. I guess on the flip side these can also be for the greatest good as well depending on the personalities involved. I am becoming more relaxed about it now but it's hard to not feel the 'eyes' on me judging. I guess that's a reason that I've isolated so much as well. @Former-Member Perhaps like you it's hard sometimes not to have added fears as we see them like us and making the same mistakes which have caused us pain over the years. Mine have been avoiding as a coping strategy, or wearing masks that were polar opposites to who I was which is still a form of avoidance. I fear my youngest doing this and I hate it but it's also so hard to know what is personality and what is teenage behaviours. Hopefully all of our kids will negotiate the world they are growing up in ok and find the skills and resilience to survive and even thrive. i guess we all have our own battles but it helps to share them in an open way and for me not to have to hide them on here. Cheers 💜😊