Night Shift

I can agree when the depression sets in and motivation takes a swan dive. I had got to my lowest I think in the last few weeks. Couldn't manage anything, not even getting in my pyjamas at night. I was spiralling out of control. I really hope you all find something to pick you up a bit. I know I'm on my honeymoon phase now but I'm very wary about the spiral down again too so I totally empathise @eth, @Shaz51, @Former-Member

Hi @Former-Member yes I'm still seeing the psychologist but find I only do the barest minimum of 'homework' she gives me. I can't make myself exercise more than basic stretching. Don't feel motivated to do more than basic cooking and necessary cleaning. Avoid coming on-line here coz I've nothing new to say or positive energy to offer. Whinging here.

How are you going being home again @Former-Member?

Our friend @eth, is thinking about monday , anf like me things goes around and around in my head which is not good

so @Former-Member, any advice on how to tackle what we need to do for monday , I have to make a list and then cross them out one by one xx

sending you hugs @Former-Member

Hi @Shaz51 @Former-Member @eth

And "Hi" to anyone else who is on here.

I feel like I've wasted a whole day again, doing the usual. I'll blame my hubby for disappearing with my car, lol. I don't like driving his.

Does anyone know anything about EMDR? Eye movement desensitisation reprogramming. I looked it up on the internet, but I can't quite understand how it works.

That's ok @eth, whinge away. You've copped your fair share from me. I'm exhausted now. I had to leave home 9 and drive an hour to football where I've just sat on my bum in the sun for 4ish hours watching my boys, thrown the ball for the dog a few times and driven an hour home and now I'm lying on my bed exhausted. I really do hope things get better than this too but I'll take it over the past few weeks. It was the first Saturday in months I didn't have suicidal thoughts driving to football so I'll take that as a win😊

I hope the house inspection goes well. I used to stress so much over them. I'm really sorry that your not finding much to improve your mood. Have you had any contact with your friend lately or J?

Hello @Former-Member

my hubby feels like he wasted the day too has we had to wait around for the first coat of paint to dry before appling the second coat , but it is done now and hubby is having a sleep xx

Hiya @Former-Member,

I've done EMDR and found it quite helpful.

The way I did it was thinking of the traumatic memories whilst watching my psychologist move his finger back and forward. It sounds silly, but it was pretty hard work.

I'm not sure of the science behind it (I think it might be bunk), or if it's just the same as other desensitisation therapies about just about holding the memory in your mind. But it has good reviews that it works well.

@utopia I think it was you who mentioned EMDR, somewhere on here.

How does it actually work? If you don't mind me asking?

Also, I'm really sorry for not getting back to you about the good self help books I've read. I tried to find the post, but couldn't. Anyway, most of the good books I have found helpful are from the library and to be honest, I can't remember the names of any of the books. Sorry. If I do, I'll let you know.

I really struggle with lists @Shaz51. In hospital they actually made me do one with all the jobs that need to be done to finish the renovations for the room so my son and girlfriend can move in, they are currently in my lounge. I wasn't allowed to leave hospital until it was done and I actually felt better for doing it. I don't think it helps get the jobs done but just gives our brains one less thing to think about and go in circles with. I'm a big circular thinker too. My counsellor gave me a book just to write all my lists in so I can't loose them. That has helped too and being from her gives a bit more motivation for me to do it. Good luck with it all😊💐💜

Hi @Former-Member sorry I know only what's online about EMDR. My adult child didn't like it.

@Former-Member sounds like you have had a win today and deserve a rest after all that driving. J has had shingles so I haven't seen much of him lately. Poor thing. Saw the other friend on Thursday night but didn't sit beside her so didn't chat much. Going out with another female friend tonight to the National Indigenous Music Awards so that should be good. Every time I do get out I'm really flat for at least a day afterwards, but tomorrow I will do a few more things for the inspection. It's early Monday morning. Hard not to be anxious about it but I'm trying to rationalize myself about that.