@outlander
Hey sweetheart, sorry I haven’t responded to this thread until now. Haven’t been online the past couple of days. How are you feeling today luv?
I know how you feel about feeling lost when being a carer, I feel like my life is in a rut and it worries me to think what the future holds for me. I try not to think about it but I know its not healthy for me. I see myself getting older and where im at in my life, and where others my age are at in their lives.
You and I both battle mental illness as well so we end up using more energy to try and keep it together and keep on top of things!!
Being a carer can be isolating as well luv, and not knowing what kind of day your pop will be having adds to your stress, the uncertainty of it all, plus having to contend with your own health issues luv. I started doing my mosaicing again but sometimes its just too hard to keep up with our own interests – it is very important to do so though.
From what I have learnt about you through these forums I have no doubt in my mind that you are a loving, compassionate and very patient carer for your pop. But I totally understand that you are guessing yourself. what is the possibility that your pop could go into residential respite? Even for a week, just to give you a break?
I know ive suggested this before, ie getting an ACAT assessment and you don’t think you would need extra assistance but honestly luv, it does make a difference. You are doing things for your pop that he cant do for himself. But you could have someone come in and lighten the load for you. I really wish you would consider it luv. I used to be like you, thinking I don’t need anyone to help me, I don’t really do that much. I think we underestimate how much we really do for our loved one. Something tells me that you underestimate how much you do. And I wouldn’t be surprised if you were burnt out luv. you care for your pop but also play a big role in your sister’s lives. Im glad you have increased your self care but I think some assistance would benefit you greatly. Since mum has been in hospital, our domestic help has been suspended. I am really missing it! we would have someone come once a fortnight and do basic cleaning, and gardening done every couple of months.
Please look into getting some help caring for your pop luv. you are very young and have taken on huge responsibilities. There is nothing wrong with asking for help xxx
