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Circles and cycles

HarrySenior Contributor08 Aug 2014, 6:57 pm AEST

Circles and cycles

This post is thanks to justanother47yr

Something clicked with your last post. You liked a post on the carers forum. As contributor to the lived experience forum I had some how forgotten or pushed aside that I have a feeling of responsibility to make both forums sucessful.....thanks mate

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-karma-Senior Contributor11 Aug 2014, 5:05 pm AEST

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We acknowledge your contirbution Harry

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HobbitSenior Contributor14 Aug 2014, 5:58 pm AEST

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Hi Harry, love to hear how you are going sometime!

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HarrySenior Contributor14 Aug 2014, 6:56 pm AEST

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Hey Hobbit

Very nice pic. You best be careful as I have a thing for Hobbits LOL.

I am doing very well indeed thanks. I have been pretty busy with school this last week so haven't been around to post a lot.

Just home from school actually, chillin out with a cuppa. Looking forward to seeing the Gyuto Monks of Tibet tomorrow night.

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Hi Harry,

Excellent to hear! Hope school is going well for you. I too have recently started studying again.

I looked up Gyuto Monks of Tibet on Google - sounds interestng!!

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor02 Sept 2014, 3:49 pm AEST

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no problems. I have had difficulties logging on for about a week and just worked out how to do it again. Before, I was not online because of other responsibilities.
iI am proud to be a Consumer. We are the people who stick our hands up and say; I am a Consumer . consumer means that We have accessed mental health places in the past. We also act in a non judgemental way to others we meet on the street and are aware of keeping ourselves safe. because we have been there.

that's what I think anyway.
you?

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HobbitSenior Contributor04 Sept 2014, 9:20 pm AEST

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Hi Justanother47yr,

I really like your take on that. A lot of people do not like the word consumer, but this puts it in a whole different light. It gives it a sense of empowerment. Good on you!!

thanks very much

Hobbit.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor09 Sept 2014, 10:16 pm AEST

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Hi hobbit,

I think that feeling good comes from within and if you don't.....a person may want to start with this very little step.

'What is important to me?'

When my youngest son was so ill and going in and out of hospital and my oldest son was going through troubles I wasn't able to function without a huge amount of pain on my shoulders.
....I chose to think.... I'm .........off that things are so difficult.
I need to cope tomorrow.

What is the most important thing for me?
It was....to be kind.

Then about 6 months later it stretched to ....to be safe. To be kind.

Then....to be clean.

I talked about this to my therapist.
and this is how I existed for a long time. I didn't want to be anything but that.
Somehow....I got through.

It's different for everyone.
Is this something you would do? Work out what is important to you?

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HobbitSenior Contributor11 Sept 2014, 9:19 pm AEST

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Hi Justanother47y/o,

I think working out what's important to you is the same as taking care of yourself. From what I am reading in your post, it's kind of like 'focussing on the task at hand'?? As in 'what's important to me NOW'

I see you re-evaluate what's important to you now as time goes on. I think that's a really good strategy. We all go through change, our circumstances change, therefore what's important to us would also change as time goes on. This I think is being flexible with the changing currents of life, and is REALLY important.

An analogy - I was once washing my car, I had a plastic bucket of water. I accidentally backed over the bucket. Being plastic, the bucket simply squashed a bit out of shape, but it was still a bucket (and I still actually use it). This was because the bucket was flexible. If it was a hard metal bucket, even thought it's technically sturdier and stronger than a plastic bucket, it's not flexible. The metal bucket would have been squashed and destroyed and become useless. So the point I'm making is the so called "stronger" metal bucket would have been ruined, where the apparently "weaker" plastic bucket is flexible, and survives another day.

So what others may see as a weakness, there's strength in being flexible. That's what will get us through to the next day. That's probably what's important to me. Being flexible enough to carry on in life.

That's (unseen) strength.You have that!!

Hobbit.

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NikNikSenior Contributor11 Sept 2014, 11:18 pm AEST

Right now, I made another of my frequent mistakes.

This comment has been moved by a moderator to another part of the forum where it might be more easily found by the community.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor12 Sept 2014, 3:58 pm AEST

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Hi Hobbit,
I'm taking your comment and hold onto it while I do things today.
I've had a lot going on.....I wrote about my latest hiccup on the forum.

I've found, with all my studies I did which I threw myself into ....and other stuff, I still feel exhausted and worn out. This may be because of medication or my age.....
I think of why am I struggling to work? Is it my resume? Is it my exercise? Is it me ?

My family has always been aggressive to me, my mum's approval has been important, I think because of my own head injuries when I was 16 to 26: when they were at their worst, she wasn't coping and left the state I live in to have 'time out.'
She is surprised how I've carried myself concerning my own children's mental well being and things are changing to the positive.

Somewhere I read that if your parent isn't in your life when your a teenager, I is hard for them to get to know you when your older. ....that is me and poor Mum.
But now almost at 47 years old ....I'm finding it difficult getting back to work and applying for even part time work.
And I just got a rejection....that's usually okay but I have so much happening, I just want to curl up and go to sleep.

Is this too much has happened, take 10 years off and youlle be strong again? I remember reading...somewhere.... Carl Jung took 10 years off when his friendship with Freud ended, he was so overwhelmed.... I think of myself and reason that I don't really need to work...can this happen for myself?

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