how do i enjoy myself tonight

@MDT

I understand how you feel as I tend to get quite anxious before going out socially too. But you might have a good time, so it's maybe worth going and trying to enjoy yourself? Maybe try not to focus on yourself but look at the other people you are with?

I worry about my appearance usually because I am quite depressed and unmotivated so to get dressed up and make an effort with my appearance is quite difficult for me. I'd rather just go in trackpants but then people make comments that I look like I just got out of bed. I don't know exactly what to say to make you feel better about yourself but maybe just try to remember that we all struggle with how we look. If we are overweight we want to be slimmer, if we are slimmer we want to be prettier. If we have curly hair we want straight hair. If we are blonde, we want to be brunette etc. etc. You said you are very tall? I am the opposite as I am quite small and people make rude comments, so I wear high heels a lot to make myself look taller, but they are uncomfortable to walk in.

I hope you can go tonight and try not to worry about what others think of you. They are probably all worried about themselves too. There are many people in the world with lots of physical problems (wheelchairs etc.) who find it difficult to go out anywhere. I think personality always outshines appearances and sometimes the most beautiful looking people turn out to not be the most interesting ones to talk to. Maybe go out with the intention of making a new friend and learning something new about someone?

Hope you have a good night out and can share something interesting with us tomorrow.

Hey @MDT,

That's cool that you're preparing yourself to have a good time tonight. One thing that it might help to remember is that the other people will also be worrying inside about how they're coming across to you as well.

I don't really have any good suggestions because I'm not very good at conversations and stuff, and I always find it much easier if there's a proper activity rather than just a meal or drinks.

It's great that you're going to give it a shot.

Hello @MDT

just try focusing on the present moment will help. my friend , hope you do go and ejoy it

sitting with you @MDT :

If you are feeling self conscious, the best thing to do is to direct the conversation to others. A lot of people love talking about themselves so start with the small talk. Seen any movies you’ve enjoyed lately? Been to any good gigs? What are you studying? Expand the conversation so the answers are not just yes and no. Ask what actors were in the movie? What did you like about it? And so on. Compliment them on what they are wearing.

If they make a comment about your height, reply in the positive vein. Being tall is good for ......

It’s really great that you do have something to do on a Saturday night. Make the most of it. Just relax. Hope you enjoy it @MDT

Okay @MDT - go to the bathroom, splash some water on your face. You made the effort to go out tonight. It’s still early so make the most of it.