Trouble !

@Former-Member I'm in a similar space as you right now. I'm tired, empty and lost. I want to give up on everything as nothing has gone well in such a long time. I have no pyschologist, as I'm waiting on one in community mh, but a supportive GP & mh case manager, but I feel I'm draining them with my negative energies. Just wanted to tell you that I hear you in the space you're at.

thank you @Sans911 I wish that it wasnt the case for you too. im draining people around me with my negative stuff too and im feeling guilty too. i am so tired.

Hi @Former-Member @Sans911 ...... good morning.

I just want to add a comment in here from a carer's perspective ....... and case workers and therapists are carers .....:: although I can only speak for myself and my observations of others, rather than being able to speak for others directly.

Carers know the power of negativity to drain people ...... both internally, and externally, draining the energy of others ...... but ......

(And there is a big butt here ..... lol ...... )

Firstly, they have chosen to step up to that position of caring, warts and all, and continue to choose it, despite its draining nature.

Secondly .......and this is the most important aspect for you to understand I think ..... carers by necessity develop a Teflon lining ...... it's a form of emotional shield that allows you to listen, to empathise, to understand, to act, to remain present ....... all those things ...... but prevent the draining nature of negativity through that shield. It means that the negativity remains with you, but the validity of that negativity, the pain it expresses, the absence of hope and self-belief, self-esteem ....... all those painful aspects are heard and supported.

I think the Teflon lining needs periodic replacement or recharge ...... but that part is the responsibility of the carer themselves.

Maybe too, in the field of mh there are many people in the carer role with their Teflon worn too thin, jaded, damaged, not taking the time to review / renew their Teflon ....... and that is not good either .......: not that it even needs to be said. It that state they lose their connectivity, their empathy, their ability to establish rapport with their clients ...... and subsequently become part of the problem, which exaccerbates the problem.

The bottom line to all this is for you to try not to feel guilty about off-loading all that negativity ....... it's a very necessary part of your healing ...... and your carers are there for you for that reason .....

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Hi @Former-Member @Sans911 ......

I said above "the negativity remains with you" ......

The negativity is a conduit ...... it's carring all the pain and hardship, the absence of hope and belief that things can get better ......

Once all the pain and hardship has been sorted through ...... categorised ...... pain and issues that you are carrying that actually belong to others is reassigned back to them and let go ...... pain and issues that belong to you examined, treated, healed and / or let go ...... then the conduit is no longer required. It too can be dismantled and replaced as much as possible by positivity.

This is a monumental task ..... but like any form of healing and decluttering, we have to start somewhere .....:. and here is a somewhere ....... here you are heard and cared for ....... here you can express the negativity and we see that it is a conduit ..... very clearly.

And we have conduits of our own .....

And it's okay ......:

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No you are not @Former-Member draining anyone. You deserve support and need it now. Let us all support you. @Sans911 knows what this is like and @Faith-and-Hope is here for you too. Loosing a psychologist is the hardest thing I've been through. Please let us all support you and keep talking here. You are loved and needed and life still has options.

Well said @Teej ..... ❣️

Good morning 💐

Hi @Faith-and-Hope. I am worried for lj. I'll catch up with you when I can. I've been awol as there are a few things happening in my life.

Yeah .... I am worried too ..... 😔