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KurraSenior Contributor
I'm in big do do and thinking stupid exit plans. No worries. These are thoughts only. I'm not planning any action on these thoughts. I'm terrified that I'm going to end up homeless again. Any support would be very welcime @Faith-and-Hope @Teej @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Mazarita @Former-Member @Former-Member and anyone else who cares about me.
I'm si afraid....... Luv n Hugzzz to all 💕
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Dear @Kurra @Jacques @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member
I've worked it out, what I'm so upset about.....Of course, I'm taking it out on Mr g......I can see I'm being more than a little passive aggressive.....It's hard not to. I wrote on the worry room.......
....I feel like the more I spend time with and care for Mr G .....I feel like I can't do anything else. Whenever I speak to someone about my caring role, I feel overwhelmed but they don't know what to say or only really want to talk about lighthearted things that have a positive outcome.
WE just got back from an expensive meal from this beautiful restuant and as usual.....I'm running around caring for him...it's so so easy to forget about me. and I get respentful and angry at myself and him.
I cannot get out of this cycle.
But it's not his fault and it's about me not being able to care for me right now......
I'm not quite sure what to do......
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JacquesSenior Contributor
hi my dear friend @PeppiPatty,
I am very new to relationships, but i learned from SANE to set clear boundaries and communicate, and as many of my forum friends have told me set some time aside for me. i know how hard it is supporting someone you love, and i know you want to care for them unconditionally.
have you thought about respite for yourself, get someone in to help him so you can get a little break every now and again.
@PeppiPatty you are not superwoman, no woman is, we can only do what we can do, and we all need soem time off to recharge the batteries, i know when i was looking after my dad, it is so exhausting being a 24/7 carer and i found over time i became less affective as a carer because of the exhaustion. take some time out for you. even something as simple as a bath, get your hair and nails done, go shopping or watch a movie at the cinema.
hugs my friend. you are always in my thoughts.
Jacques
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Dear @Jacques
Is'nt it funny....strange funny....I've had over 20 years of therapy,
14 of it very good.
been an online forumite for a long time
studied Psychoterapy
good enough Mum
and I'm still not listening to my own advise on taking time out.
You say you are 'new,' to relationships......are you in one ? I still get posts from the place where you get tapestry pieces from your Mum......but I keep on doing my own silly little crafty things.
You are in my thoughts all the time too. xxx
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KurraSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Oh no @Kurra ..... 😔😔😔
I so wish I could be there to help look after you ...... ♥️
Please, please take care of you ......
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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KurraSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
What are we going to do with you @Kurra ..... ❣️
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