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New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

I'll try to give a brief outline of our situation. We have been married for 17 years. My wife is Thai and 47 years old, though she is an Australian citizen. We are currently in Thailand, largely due to her first symptoms occurring some 5 years ago whilst living in Australia. At that time I did not recognize the severity of the situation and she insisted on returning to Thailand, I believed this would answer the problem. I followed her to Thailand and she seemed to gain comfort from being home. Being unable to sustain ourselves forever without income I took to returning to Australia to do seasonal work in 2 or 3 month stretches. It was the second of these work trips when her mental health took a turn for the worst. She received local treatment of drugs that had a dramatic impact on her physically but on my return to Thailand gradually came back to normality.

Fast forward a couple of years during which I made 2 more work trips that went without incident though a lot of patience and phone 'cuddling' was required. Recently her mother has been diagnosed with end stage kidney disease and has been in our care since, this has coincided with my my father being diagnosed terminal cancer. We were both planning to visit my family, yet mother in law was very upset that she may never see her daughter again and was unhappy that her care would be passed to other family members, so, we decided I visit my family alone. I waited a fairly long time before I made any bookings for the trip, hopeful that my wife could accompany me, though this was not possible.

At about the same time I had confirmed my trip the first symptoms of the current episode started. My wife, after a couple of weeks of my subliminal encouragement agreed to visit the local psychiatric hospital where she was prescribed drugs in mild dose. a different prescription to the previous that she was plainly fearful of. I have little faith in the local practitioners as they seem only to hand out prescriptions, and I personally have not been present at the consultations and no matter how I try to convince her, my wife does not wish me present (this is, I believe, because she is fearful that I will reveal the full extent of her symptoms).

I had a very difficult time whilst away visiting my family dealing with my wife, and she, I and her family believed there would be relief on my return to Thailand. This is sadly not the case, and it now seems to me at least, to getting worse.

The symptoms - hearing voices telling her all kinds of outlandish conspiracies that include myself, my family and nearly anybody that passes through our lives. These conspiracies seem mainly focused on our relationship and money. She spends a fair amount of time talking to herself, a language I speak very little of. Family members around us who do understand her chatter only threaten to take her back to the hospital. She is emotionally shattered, often sobbing for no apparent reason.

I have been back two weeks now. My whole life is dominated by constant repetitive accusations and questions. She is impulsive, everything she decides has to be done of this minute. She is like a dog with a bone once an issue enters her thinking. In more rational times we have discussed returning to Australia. She is happy with this idea, yet wishes to do so immediately, fails to understand that we cannot live without income and that she would spend significant time without support if I am working, and, that our return requires planning and more importantly her health restored.

I feel that my own mental stability is being affected and very saddened that my beautiful and once happy,hard working and reliable wife is being broken on a daily basis. I feel like I am treading water in a strong riptide.

Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

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Re: New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through Butama. I went through something similar with my sister back in the 1970s when there was very little or no help available. I couldn't understand why she was abusing me so much all the time and believing that i had been sent by Satan to take away her son etc. I tried everything possible. It went on for over a year. Until in total desperation, simply because her young son my nephew was being so badly affected, I succumbed to the worst possible scenario.I applied to have her sectioned. This involved a doctor and a police officer accompanying me to her place and having her involuntarily admitted to hospital. It was the worst thing possible for me to do but in the end I had to do it to save my nephew. However, and this is why I am sharing this, it actually turned out to be the best possible thing I could have done. In time, experimenting with the right drugs to suit my sister and the correct dosages of same and quite a long stay in hospital being professionally cared for whilst establishing the correct medication, she was able to go home.For a while my nephew continued to live with me but in time he was able to go home to his Mum. I know it sounds like a drastic step to take but please consider it. And if you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask. The only thing I would suggest though, would be to do this here in Australia. Not Thailand.

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Re: New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

Whats your wifes mothers Kidney disorder?
I'm asking because it may have some relativity to your wifes situation.
Did anything originally trigger your wifes symptoms or did it just come out of nowhere?
These are all important questions that need to be answered because you say your committed to helping your wife.

Has the family made any measures to reduce the stress in your wifes lives and “worked on themselves“ to be better able to offer her an environment of support,peace,trust and stability?

Does your wife has insight/awareness into her symptoms?
Ie:are you able to communicate with her that the things she believes might not be rational?

I assume Antipsychotics are readily available in Thailand....are they helping at all?
Again,Schizophrenia is not the only illness that can cause symptoms of paranoia,many other things can cause this including Endocrine disorders.
Its important for you to be proactive and discuss,either on this forum or with a good doctor,whether your wife has/had any physical symptoms in addition to the paranoia..
For example did she gain weight,or have difficult walking or unusual walking style,did she complain of pins and needles or any other physical symptoms.
A good place to start would be to get her thyroid levels checked.

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Re: New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

Hi,

I'm familiar with the side effects of those drugs on the human mind. It was given to my wife when she was fighting metastatic brain cancer.

Also, take care of your mental health. I strive to get the basics right daily, such as sleep, sunlight on the skin, fresh air, workout, diet, pray. All the best

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Re: New member with wife diagnosed with schizophrenia in need of guidance.

Welcome to the forums @StandingTall ,

Thank you for sharing some of your experiences. Sorry to hear about the passing of your wife.

At this stage, we recognise the research you have looked into, however, because we do not know the context and health history of members, your post has been edited to remove recommendations.

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