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How do I tell him I think he has an issue?
My husband of 7 years, with no diagnosis as never been to a doctor. Has been becoming frequently more irritable and angry with me. He is a poor sleeper at times and when he is stressed he states there is under ground tunnelling occurring and he can hear it. At the beginning 6yrs ago he would get out of bed and go searching for the noise. Now he just tells me it is still happening keeping him awake. More frequently when he is having periods of more stress he says all the neighbours call him names, They yell at him when he is outside, when in the shower. He respond to the voices by saying - "you wish' come on have a go...pulls faces back. He is shocked I can not hear it. He says he doesn't know why they don't say it to his face. He becomes very offended when I say I don't hear it, and he says it happens every where. Even when driving with the window up people yell at him.<br>As these episodes happened less frequently over the years I double take and think is it real or not? And actually I didn't want it to be real so I push it away thinking his thoughts will go away.<br>But we have two small boys and at times he is so involved with himself and distracted on his phone, laying on the couch any thing can happen around him and he is not aware of it. Then other times like now he is perfect, happy helpful and involved. But it is only a matter of two weeks and his moods will dip again.<br>Coincidence he was unwell so he wanted to go to a GP so I said great, tell them about your poor sleeping, waking up tired. I contacted the Dr and advised them of a brief concern of mine with his thoughts of others calling him names and left it at that and asked if they could do a assessment. Though he went to the GP, had bloods and not sure when he will follow it up. .<br>My husband also thinks when I cough in my sleep I am intentially coughing in his face or if I roll over and knock him I am intentially hitting him in my sleep.<br>Our old neighbours he was horrified I told them where we live as he said they now know and will do things to get under his nerves. But now the mood is good, but what do I ask him to do? Who do I refer to ? Do I have a plan in place before I mention that I don't think he is mentally stable? That I am so upset that I can't keep holding on to good time and putting up with the irrational comments and behaviour?? Any advice would beGreat, thanks for listening
