KazCasual Contributor
Need Help with Depressed Husband
I care for my husband with depression. He's very hard to motivate. Its almost impossible to get him out of bed before 10am. What shall I do?
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Need Help with Depressed Husband
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ivanaSenior Contributor
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Consider joining a gym with your husband.
Exercise can help some people with depression,can give energy and also be social.
Either the PCYC or YMCA has a program for people with depression,I forget which one sorry.
Exercise can help some people with depression,can give energy and also be social.
Either the PCYC or YMCA has a program for people with depression,I forget which one sorry.
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Melstar71Contributor
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Thanks!
He see's his psychiatrist every fortnight who is monitoring the increase in medication. I find if he has had a good sleep the night before and has something on the agenda to do for the day he is more motivated to get up.
Great forum!
Mel
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Melstar71Contributor
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Hi,
Thanks for the suggestion and I will look at that in the near future. At the moment my husband has been mainly house bound due to the fear / anxious of crowds and fear / anxious of being around a lot of people. It is a struggle for him to go to the local shops even with me but as he keeps having a go at getting out of the house he finds it slowly helps.
Mel
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Brodie,
Reads like you are doing all the rights things, push that pushy label away :0)
I am so much of a fan of timetables. Even writing
10am. To 10.30 am.....drink glass water.
Mel, how are you today?
I have used timetables , with my ex husband who was diagnosed with suffering times of mental illness.
I found some examples of some brilliant timetables on pininterest on the website.
also, talking about.......casual walks. I live where the local council of the area where you live has a blurb of things like.local swimming pools....easy paced walks....libraries...etc.
Just talking about an easy paced walk is sometimes just enough. not going on the walk but talking may bring motivation for the future.
Reads like you are doing all the rights things, push that pushy label away :0)
I am so much of a fan of timetables. Even writing
10am. To 10.30 am.....drink glass water.
Mel, how are you today?
I have used timetables , with my ex husband who was diagnosed with suffering times of mental illness.
I found some examples of some brilliant timetables on pininterest on the website.
also, talking about.......casual walks. I live where the local council of the area where you live has a blurb of things like.local swimming pools....easy paced walks....libraries...etc.
Just talking about an easy paced walk is sometimes just enough. not going on the walk but talking may bring motivation for the future.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Thankyou everyone for all your tips @NikNik, @Kaz, @PeppiPatty, @Melstar71, @ivana
@NikNik.--Have you spoken to the Dr who prescribed that medication about this effect the medication has? Maybe he/she has some tips on managing the side effect? -- we have an appointment in February , can`t wait ,
my hubby doing a lot better today , but is starting to sleep more
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Dear @Shaz51
Thanks for the compliment.....Ille just read the others.......@Ivana wrote!!
It's a difficult situation that we are in.......on Monday, @LittleBuddha had problems with his bank and I hoed in there with all the right info but .............the woman who helped us was very young and incompetant and @LittleBuddha wanted to deal with it all himself........groan........
he worked it all out at another bank!! I had been saying to him that I feel that dependent 100% on me and it's completely getting me down so......he's been managing his own stuff.......it's been awesome.......
The only proeblems are that he's been convincing Arlo to love him more....lol.....lol........@LittleBuddha is moving in!!
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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@PeppiPatty, @Kaz, @Melstar71, @ivana, @NikNik, During the day my hubby can get very tired due to his medication , to do a couple of jobs and then want to go to sleep
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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hi @Shaz51
how are you tonight ? i just have no idea how you keep on ....your like this superstar !!
in my past life.... at age 40 thats just 8 years ago ....i kept on ...but its the medication ...
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in 2003 a Psychiatrist perscribed me these awesome great meds to keep me awake but i chucked them all out because i was taking so many different meds..
i think that this is when i ask you hows "taking care of yourself going ?
im just crusing along ...
. today i had a. coffee with mum. what was .......bizarre...
at last she listened to me when i was speaking about losing my home
speak tomorrow hope ypu sleep well @Shaz51
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how are you tonight ? i just have no idea how you keep on ....your like this superstar !!
in my past life.... at age 40 thats just 8 years ago ....i kept on ...but its the medication ...
.
in 2003 a Psychiatrist perscribed me these awesome great meds to keep me awake but i chucked them all out because i was taking so many different meds..
i think that this is when i ask you hows "taking care of yourself going ?
im just crusing along ...
. today i had a. coffee with mum. what was .......bizarre...
at last she listened to me when i was speaking about losing my home
speak tomorrow hope ypu sleep well @Shaz51
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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hello my friend @PeppiPatty , thank you for your kind words , but i do have moments from time to time 
that is wonderful that you had a. coffee with your mum.
@But NikNik is right , NikNik is worried about me if I am looking after myself
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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dearest @Shaz51
you are worth it honey i feel like i want to keep on writing this ......is there something happening in your life for me wanting to write this over and over ??
ille tekl you why I feel I want to write this to you but first ; ille get something out of the way.
ive been having a bit of a break from Sane Forums theres a few who are my favorites ......but i have other things happening here.
i come online to say hello to you.
you have a lot on your plate. you deserve a nice cup of tea made for you or ... time to see a film or a shopping day with a girlfriend
ive been saving and saving and i know this sounds like it does.....not exciting for most but i went online to amazon dot com and bought myaelf some shoes. ive been wearing thongs waiting for these cute little sketchers.....juat a tick...ille post em... .
you are worth it honey i feel like i want to keep on writing this ......is there something happening in your life for me wanting to write this over and over ??
ille tekl you why I feel I want to write this to you but first ; ille get something out of the way.
ive been having a bit of a break from Sane Forums theres a few who are my favorites ......but i have other things happening here.
i come online to say hello to you.
you have a lot on your plate. you deserve a nice cup of tea made for you or ... time to see a film or a shopping day with a girlfriend
ive been saving and saving and i know this sounds like it does.....not exciting for most but i went online to amazon dot com and bought myaelf some shoes. ive been wearing thongs waiting for these cute little sketchers.....juat a tick...ille post em... .
