problems with grandmother

hey guys,

I´ve been feeling really bad and I need to vent. This is about my grandmother, as you can see from the title. Well, currently, she, me , my dad, mother and brother are living together because my grandmother´s husband died last year and we´re all she has.

the problem is : she has dementia , or at least that´s what her doctor says.

Some years ago she had a mental breakdown and since then she has been on medication ( she never received approppriate treatment and that´s why we´re in this situation now) .

So , like I said , she has been suffering from mental disorders for some time now and because of that her husband, before dying, said she could NEVER be taken off medication because It could get worse and then we wouldn´t be able to handle her.

well , she was never in a situation where her doctor even dreamed of taking her off medication... not until now . For some reason (unknown to me because I don´t go with her to the appointments) her doctor decided she should give up on medication , even though my mom told her that this probably wouldn´t be a good idea.

Ok, so she went off medication and now , omg , we really cannot handle her anymore , this is crazy, everyone is stressed in this house, my mom is always sad and disappointed with herself, my dad is stressed all the time , my brother is also stressed and me , well , I feel like crying when I have to go home , I just can´t live in the same roof as her anymore... I´m only 17 , I Shouldn´t be going through this , I should be happy to go home , I should be able to live a "normal" life , I can´t do this anymore .

My grandmother is ALWAYS cleaning, she wakes up at 9am and cleans until 0:00am , the other night my mom caught her scrubbing the floor at 1 am ....she only stops for lunch and for dinner and even then she is talking and thinking about what she´s going to clean next, sometimes she even decides to start cleaning while the rest of the family is having lunch or dinner... It drives us mad because sometimes we´re eating and she is scrubbing the floor , there was this day when she only ate lunch at 3pm and she had an appointment with the doctor at 4pm , my mom kept telling her that they needed to go and that she needed to eat but my grandmother would just ignore or yell at my mom .That´s another thing, my mom is always telling her "mom, you need to rest, don´t you hear what the doctors tell you?", "mom, you need to eat, you are getting thinner and weaker" , "mom, you need to take your medication ,take It now or you´ll forget" but my grandmother just yells at her "I´ll take my medicine whenever I want to take It, you can´t tell me what to do , I´m tired of you" ; "I´ll eat whenever I want to , you can´t decide what I can or cannot do , you want me dead , you all want me dead" ; "I´m smarter than all of you , all this years I´ve been blind but now I´m better than ever , now I´m smart, you all want me dead so you can take all my money" ; " I don´t need you for anything , I´m better on my own , you don´t care about me , you should respect me more, I deserve respect , I want all my money back" .

When she is mad she also kicks doors, calls us names, yells at the top of her lungs and seems like she really is going to punch us... the other day she was so mad that she kept calling my mom "w**re, cow, bitch..." and yelling horrible things to her, It was terriffying , I´ve never seen someone act like this in all my life.

My mom cares so much for her , she takes her to the doctor appointments, she makes her food, she reminds her of the medication she needs to take , she helps her whenever she needs and my grandmother thinks that we want her dead and that we hate her.

This is just too much for me , I think I´m going crazy myself.