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So on wednesday I went to see my gp about a skin spot I was finding to be quite suspicious and the news turned out to be not what I expected. They want the spot surgically removed urgently as in tuesday unless others cancel and i can get in earlier. They want the whole thing and as it looks like its spreading already they want more than just the top taken off then if it comes back malignanat more tests to see how far its spread then removed those areas
the worrying part is i dont know how long its been there for and because ive noticed it change twice its a very bad sign. Unintentionally coming off her was fear. Fear from others makes me worse and she was sending off alot of that. She pointed out 2 other points that she noticed that are really not good and are often seen in skin cancers.
Im so scared and it seems like tuesday is taking forever to get here. Its really not easy to sit with and accept. Im bloody pertrified!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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It is really good @Former-Member I dont want you to suffer because i am though But thanks for caring ❤
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Unknown userMember
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1. Write down your negative feelings & thoughts. 2.Draw a picture/pictures of what those thoughts & pain would look like if they were something you could, see or pickup. 3.Dont eat junk food, or sit in the sun without skin protection. 4.Look in the mirror & look deep into your eyes only, & see a little 2 year old you with tiny stretched out arms wanting to be loved, by you. Then do for yourself the same as you would for that precious little one. 4. No matter what happens see your family as here to support you, & the Medical staff as having the knowledge to do it right, & the wisdom inside you to see & know you are a Victor, not a victom. 5. Now eat good yummy healthy food, draw or sing or write things that make you feel, happy, good, safe, & strong.
I do those sort of things, plus I pray. Its the only way I have gotten through all the crap in my life, @outlander, luv u! 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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hi @Former-Member thats really great
thank you for all those suggestions
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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ok guys things are getting really real! and im really scared!
im having alot of trouble containing my fear around this! a whole lot
im trying the suggestions of deep breathing and meditation and music but its not really helping me. i cant sit still, too jittery and walking around and trying to calm my nerves
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Unknown userMember
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Hey @outlander Seem to recall somewhere a mention of you putting together something for charity. Can you fill me in on this and how you are going with it? Darcy
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander - hun, just keep it simple. Pare it right back to the basics of what you need to do. Ear, sleep, shower, take care of your sisters and pop and get to your appointment.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Oh yeah the charity @Former-Member So im making dignity bags for homeless women. Im up to my 15th bag now. I had to stop abit because other things were taking priority. Ive got a thread that explains abit more about it....
Ive got so much to do before the op tomorrow @Sans911 i dont know how to pull it back even more Before 1pm this is what has to be done 1. Get petrol 2. Take mum bf to work 3. Feed our horses 4. Do the small shopping list 5. Pack the kids stuff in the car 6. Get the kids to the baby sitters place 7. Get to the appointment
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander you can do it sweetie. Can your sisters help with anything, like helping you feeding the horses, packing the car? Can you make it a bit like an adventure for them to also help with your anxiety levels?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Im getting petrol now so one less thing to do I was suppose to feed all the horses but im not now im only doing the one who is easy and in a private yard meaning i dont have to wait around. Just fill waters feed and go.
Dogs are barking here, pop coughing sister having a cough every now and then its getting really really overwhelming!!!!
@Sans911
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Unknown userMember
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Baby steps @outlander, just take one thing at a time. I won't be sleeping much tonight so happy to keep you company if need be.
Just one step at a time. Good to see you have a list ready to go
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