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So on wednesday I went to see my gp about a skin spot I was finding to be quite suspicious and the news turned out to be not what I expected. They want the spot surgically removed urgently as in tuesday unless others cancel and i can get in earlier. They want the whole thing and as it looks like its spreading already they want more than just the top taken off then if it comes back malignanat more tests to see how far its spread then removed those areas
the worrying part is i dont know how long its been there for and because ive noticed it change twice its a very bad sign. Unintentionally coming off her was fear. Fear from others makes me worse and she was sending off alot of that. She pointed out 2 other points that she noticed that are really not good and are often seen in skin cancers.
Im so scared and it seems like tuesday is taking forever to get here. Its really not easy to sit with and accept. Im bloody pertrified!
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Hi @outlander
Perhaps another forum member can sit with you if needed.
As @Former-Member says, you need to recognise and accept your feelings in order to deal with them in a healthy way.
When we try and numb our pain we also numb our joy, we cannot be selective about this. Emotions are like waves of the ocean, they will come and go for sure, sometimes gentle and calm, sometimes rough and stormy. There are safety precautions we need to observe (emotional hygiene), swimming between the flags and knowing what to do if you get caught in a rip, learning how to surf ...
I have got the surfboard out at the moment, Mr Darcy having major surgery. Despite this I still look for things to be thankful for or the simple pleasures, just like at the beach, there are the life guards (bonus if they are good looking), the person in a crochet bikini, little ones experiencing a wavelet for the first time ...
Darcy
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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im sure someone will be around 🙂@Former-Member
ive got learn to surf better, im working on that still.
im getting better at it but still not as good as what it could be. might have to come and join you for a surf or 2 and get some pointers from you.
im still trying to see the good things like having the forums here for support, the weather when its nice, the beauty of nature and all those flowers at the gardens
how are you handling things? i hope your coping the best you can, im here for you too
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Unknown userMember
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Be gentle with yourself @outlander learning to surf can take time. Balancing on the surfboard for those who are not athletic can take time and there will be tumbles, all a learning experience.
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I hope you like this sketch I did of a Golden Cocker Spaneil puppy, you can have it to brighten your day. I love the waves @outlander thank you for giving me my hearts desire.
Love
Bella XO 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thanks @Former-Member i know its all about learning. its just taking forever.
after tuesday i have another week of waiting to see how dangerous this thing is
better start by buying a surfboard first hey
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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thats really great @Former-Member your a really good drawer!
thanks 🙂
only 2 more days to go. the nerves are scary! and then another week of waiting for test results
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does anyone have any physical and mental preparation strategies for tuesday?
any at all?
anything that i should be doing before and afterwards?
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Hi @outlander,
Can you take something into listen to on your phone for before hand and maybe afterwards too. Such as a playlist of soothing music, a mindfulness/meditation/relaxation track (you can download them from the internet), maybe use an app like the smiling mind app.
I always think listening to things helps me stay calm.
Is there someone who is going to be with you before hand and afterwards (you shouldn't have to go through this yourself)
You do know however that we will all be thinking about you on Tuesday and helping you as best as we can along the way. I'll try and think of some more things!
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander hey sweetie. @Former-Member her suggestion is what I would have advised you to try. But start tonight, and then do 2or 3 times tommorrow & once more before your procedure. I did this before my gallbladder surgery earlier this year, and it helped a lot. I also had a sore on my head for about 4months that was not healing and getting bigger. My GP and dermatologist thought it might be a skin cancer. So I've been through the same thing your going through. And even though I'm a nurse, it was scary waiting for the result, which was clear. You have no idea of the outcome, and fingers crossed it will be negative. Just try and stay focused on a good outcome. You have so many other things going on you could end completely spiralling out of control. Also remember to tell the doctors and nurses how anxious you are. I'll be around Tuesday so I'll be right there with you.
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I hope you like this sketch I did of a Golden Cocker Spaneil puppy, you can have it to brighten your day. I love the waves 
