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The ALL-YEAR-ROUND job of DECLUTTERING and CLEANING our homes is daunting. Especially for those of us who HOARD, or struggle with depression, and decisions, anxiety & other MI. I'm so challenged in this way so reaching out for support. Maybe start an Declutterers Army 💪
If you suffer the same challenge or have some great suggestions - type away... 💙💜💙💜💙💜💙
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
I getcha with that sad feeling - I have a sad feeling myself right now - I get it - back-to-back grief issues with a birth date, adoption date and Christmas and totally get it with family being a pain-in-the-rear-end - aw - it really is enough
Through years and years I have noticed this over-whelming feeling does not go away - and I am really with you right now - I can't seem to get out of my own shadow which was okay on those days when we had storms down here but the sun is out and I still feeling bleak and now I can see my shadow and I can't get out of the dumps I am down in
One thing I can assure you with is that apart from the family issues the grief issues to get easier to deal with as the years pass - I wish I could say they go away completely - I think that I have learned to sit out the rough times because basically there is no choice about this kind of mind-set - or if there is it's deciding that it's okay to feel this way - and how I wish I could make it easier for you
The family stuff - and having your brother blast you on the phone that way - totally rotten behaviour on his behalf - it's like he is using his MI as an excuse but I don't think it's at all that easy - he probably has no idea that you are really battling with the Christmas thing
So sorry you feel that way my dear sweet Spirit Bear - sending lots of virtual hugs and I hope you are still on line - I can chat a bit if you want to - I really feel for you -
Dec
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Hi @Former-Member - I'm OK, thanks for asking. Just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Odd that I feel I got more done around the home when I had a job or maybe that's how things got so out of hand and now I'm reaping what I sowed. Maybe chronic procrastination or lack of motivation? I like the idea of two things a day. I might adopt that mantra. Have a good night and look after yourself.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
I love your new avatar - really love it
I'll catch up with you on the Child Loss thread
Hi @Adge
I read about the fence thing and one thing you can do is get your own quote/s about that - does the fence have to be Jarrah? Your neighbour might be able to pay for that but it's really hard for you - and what's wrong with ordinary palings after all?
I'm sorry about that expense Adge - I remember many years ago now when our neighbour wanted to replace a bad fence - we couldn't and put it off - telling our neighbour there was no way we could pay for that - I seem to recollect that we managed to put it off for years until we sold the house and that was one way out of it - not that I thought of this at the time
If I were you - which of course I am not - I would challenge the price - after all - it's your money too
And I bet the Wallet Wizard charges high interest -
Life can be tough at times and right before Christmas - really tough
Thinking of both of you
Dec
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