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The ALL-YEAR-ROUND job of DECLUTTERING and CLEANING our homes is daunting. Especially for those of us who HOARD, or struggle with depression, and decisions, anxiety & other MI. I'm so challenged in this way so reaching out for support. Maybe start an Declutterers Army 💪
If you suffer the same challenge or have some great suggestions - type away... 💙💜💙💜💙💜💙
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soulSenior Contributor
Your living area looks very cosy @Former-Member. Sounds like you have had a busy day. Any more inspections?
What a cheeky cat! Hope he wasn't on his way to harass your birdies.
I am feeling somewhat better. Went out to dinner wth my daughter. Haven't responded to my sister yet - too hard basket for now. Have contacted my best friend for a catch up.
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soulSenior Contributor
Just read your message @Former-Member about your Mum. I think you should go and see her. If you don't, you may have regrets. Does she live far away?
I wish I spent more time with my parents asking them things. Now it's too late.
With your mother not eating. Has she been to a doctor lately? There are some high calorie supplements that she could take. My mother did as she was pretty skinny.
You would have to make a judgement when you are there as to what to do. Could be better informed by being on the spot.
This is an added stress for you. Feeling your pain and despair.
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Thanks guys 💜💕 I have watched people die (health professional for decades), that doesn't worry me, well, maybe it will with family of cause.
What's hard with mum is knowing how much is real and how much is 'put on'
She's always cross with me that i'm not 'sympathetic' enough, hut I try to be positive andvknow too much to have the wool pulled over my eyes. She likes to manipulate, is highly suspicious, rven spiteful, then swings to tears and mystery. When i confronted her for going through my things last visit she just yelled at me to "F# Off !" which is hard to take when ya scrubbing their toilet & hosing poop off mats & sheets etc and driving them everywhere, every day, at the drop of a hat... ...
The thing is, mum's still at home, goes to the shops every day, runs a household (kinda)... so its hard to know over the phone if she's just wanting more sympathy or deteriorating.
Mum won't answer when I ask health questions, though we did have a fair talk last week - she's coughing a lot which makes her vomit, but she refuses to let the drs do an endoscopy to see why "what's the point" she complains (re terminal cancer diagnosis). She's lost 25% body weight in 12months.
Guess I need to make a brief visit to assess things myself. Tell them my plan to sell up, come help them through this last stage - if they would like that? Mum may be ready to see she needs help now. So independent! (controlling). Dad just goes with the flow but gets much more public assistance being DVA, which mum resents. She's very ambivolent. Wants help but not...
My mental health is a concern around her. But I have this God given strength for my family from an early age and think i mght be OK.
Sorry just thinking out loud, do appreciate your input, thanks. Gotta go I guess (12hr drive). Would like to visit my son before then re losing his job & breaking his arm. And I have the birds which mum won't have in the house & my volunteer boss is struggling for staff...
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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