SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

still at it, d'clutter mayhem 😕

Hi @Owlunar,

Yep, sooo "over it!" And yep, its one year+ - its nice that you've stuck by me a whole year now, and I you I hope 🙂 Gosh that's gone fast.

"Fireworks" - haha, that was literal, they started cracking while i was typing the post here (yep, i'm easily distracted lol). Not sure what event was on in town but I could see the fireworks from my front verandah 🙂

"Spiritual Sister" just means 'church family / christian friends' to me... The one that stayed Sat night travelled 2hrs to come & I've always had a soft spot for her because she struggles with cPTSD / depression (SI) terribly, and it isolates her, but she loves the Lord so - we have much in common.

But, Unfortunately she had amelancholy meltdown over brekky Sunday, something from her distant past came up & she dropped her utensils, burst into tears saying "I CAN'T FEEL, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO FEEL, I'VE NEVER KNOWN, THATS WHY I'M SETTING MYSELF UP TO 'CHECK OUT' SO NOBODY NOTICES... ... ... 😞 it surprised me. "Don't do it, it will make me sad" i replied.

"You won't know!" she pressed.

"But I will, because you just told me" I said...

It was tense and she went quiet and foggity, and it disturbed me too. it becameone of those moments where silence was best... But it stressed me, at an alreafy stressful time, and also because I too struggling with much the same thoughts but rately say, and fighting hard not to go there (like last week when I nearly went under).

I did suggest she sell one of her three houses and come on a cruise with me instead. But as depression does, she finds many reasons why that's not an option 😞

Sorry to go off track here, but needed to get that out. Its been bothering me and I feel so powerless to help her, especially a.t.m. with so much on my plate.

Funny thing was how quickly she picked up after her cousin came and agreed to help her cart my big sofa bed lounge to give to her daughter (i gave it away), - what a relief when the silence and banging things stopped. Sheesh! I hadn't seen that side of her before, not sure what to make of it and or why now. She won't take antidepressants but I gently suggested she needs to.

I've had x4 'friendlies' visit this week, i like that friends are around but at the same time - coffee guzzling & chit chat have slowed me down, a lot. They helped, but I had to govern that & answer questions +++ grr!. Tomorrow 2 are coming for plants.

I Had to go into town today, to see Solicitor, sign stuff.... Feels like I'm not getting much of anything done 😕

Has your "glorious weather" continued down south? Beautiful days herehere too - cold at night.

I was wondering if you were able to do your own washing Dec, with your bad backback..., pleased that you can. And yes, great weather for it, one of my fav housework jobs 🙂

"How much longer clearing this old house?". Everyone wants to know 😞 but settlement is FRIDAY - that's my deadlne!

Yes, it has been a HUGE JOB 😞 I'm so ashamed of myself - letting it (the hoarding) get so bad ;( but at least I'm somehow able this time, you're right - " bit by bit - I'm doing it" 🙂 i'll take the medal thanks lol Darcy gave me one too 🙂

Well, i Best 'down screen' and get back to it, get something done. I Will check back soon.

Hope you're OK big sis xox

Hi @Former-Member

Lovely to hear from you, was wondering how w'end went. Continuing to keep you in prayer.

E-waste is discarded electronic appliances - computers, TV, phones etc.

@Former-Member, we've got a huge job here too. I'm not quite sure that "hoarding" is exactly the right tag for the problem though. Hoarding tends to be hanging on to things out of fear; hanging on to things for security.

Honestly, the excess in our house doesn't make me secure... quite the opposite. More to the point, we're emotionally and mentally overwhelmed. Stuff comes into the house, but we don't have the mental energy to process it and pass on/dispose of the bits that we don't need and don't want. So the house becomes an outward expression of the experience of being psychologically swamped.

You've got a house that was a place of very considerable "overwhelm". To be sorting it now is a huge step forward.

Meanwhile "back at the ranch", we're hoping to live here as long as possible. Well into old age if feasible. Without any "end date", it's good for me to have this thread as a point of encouragement to keep the task of sorting in mind; and seeing others, yourself included, making headway, really helps. It brings the impossible-looking task back into the realm of the possible. And it's good that even the small wins can be celebrated with others who understand that those little "baby steps" matter.

Same.

@Smc @Former-Member

Go you @Former-Member ❣️

Listening along with you .... quietly cheering for you .... 💜💐🌷💕

Hi @Former-Member

Getting things in order can be confronting but, as you know from first hand experience, makes it so much easier for you and yours.

So very pleased to hear you have bought a unit for yourself. Yes, I agree with you entirely, having a place to land in softly when needed is one less worry for you.

There are so many emotions re: Dad, I don't know what to say. Your love for him shines through, I know I would have wanted my dear old Dad to be treated with dignity and respect.

Cheering you on

Ever tried to get off the floor without knees? Ouch! Help. Took me a painful 10min, and it hurt

Cause my bed already bin storage I had a mattress on the floor, forgot I couldn't get up off the floor. Lucky I was near a chest of drawers I could open, but even then it hurt, and bruised my knees more.

Got a bright idea, cause I do need to stretch the pain out of my back throughout the day. I got the palates machine stand, put a 1/2 size door on it (from my shed) and a mattress spare, and slept like a baby last night, and could get up and down easy. Phew! Things work out 🙂

Trailer load taken to tip today - was sorted into the various recycling bays.

Inside a couple of more papers filed.