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How to accept help after a life of helping others

How to accept help after a life of helping others

I'm in my mid 50's and have had careers in the helping professions most of my adult life. Listening to friends and family, and even strangers on the street has been an habitual trait I can't seem to shake.

I feel a little broken at the moment trying to avoid situations where I'm used as a sounding board for 'their' problems. My own issues are on top of me and when I try to voice my concerns, a common answer is; "You think that's bad, what about me?" I then listen and engage as usual and leave the conversation feeling ignored and alone.

I wouldn't say I'm homebound, but close enough to it to feel scary and stuck. I call Lifeline sometimes for another voice in the room (I live alone) and it's mostly productive, but it doesn't replace close connections I crave; especially to discuss happy or up-lifting topics.

I was hospitalised this year and found it exasserbating being the one who needed support. I ended up listening to other patients and ignoring my own needs.

Even now I'm tempted to read posts and reach out to help.

How do I resist this temptation and focus on my own life?

Hope

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love your picture my sister @outlander

hope you day has been ok xx

Hello @Hope4me , @Faith-and-Hope , @Maggie , @Corny

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thinking of you @Corny

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@Corny 😂😂😂😂😂

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😂😂😂😂😂 here too @Corny ....

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Might need a trigger warning on it tho ..... jus’ sayin’ .....

@Corny

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I have experienced ailment (status, experience, knowledge, etc.) competition frequently. A serious current cultural problem! With your experience maybe u should be running a class on problems or attending a writing group where everyone gets an equal share to talk.

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@elex Hi and welcome to the forums.

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Hello @Maggie , @Hope4me , @elex , @Faith-and-Hope , @outlander

how is everyone today ??

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Hi @Shaz51 👋 💕

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hello my awesome friend @Faith-and-Hope

hope your day has been okish xxxx

my poor mr shaz , It takes hime 3 attempts and lots of returns to get things right

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