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Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor31 Aug 2017, 7:44 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

This month we welcome Mental Health Carers NSW to share some information and tips on the changes that take place once a loved one turns 18.

When a loved one turns 18, dynamics can shift. This can be due to many things, including -

A loved one moving out of the family home
Guardianship responsibilities change
Reduction in access to confidential and private information related to treatment

In this Topic Tuesday we will look at what rights you have (and don't have) and how you can continue to have a positive relationship with your loved one once they turn 18.

Join us from 7pm AEST to learn more and share your own experiences.

Hit the 'Like' button below to get an email reminder on the night.

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NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 7:27 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Welcome @JonCarer !

Can you start by telling us a bit about the legal stuff -

At what age does parent gaurdianship finish - and at that point, what choices do young people have in their parents involvement?

In response to: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 7:28 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Wow you are supporting a lot of people!

I hope you feel supported and included in helping them if they have interactions with health services.

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YTTSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 7:31 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

@Shaz51 I have trouble caring for 1 !!!

I ended up having a breakdown of sorts last weekend with just having to deal with DD and work problems...

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 7:34 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Under the NSW Mental Health Act, parents are automatically Designated carers until the age of 16 and then the young person starts to get choices.

The role of Principle Care Provider is one which can be recognised by the treating team if somone is providing support in the community and the consumer (young person) doesn't want to or is too unwell to nominate them, but parents are in a lucky position in this regard.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 7:35 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Because of being the Designated Carer automatically

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 7:38 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

@JonCarer - what types of choices do 16+ get? Is it about how involved their parents are with their treatment?

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JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 7:40 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

DD can be very challenging due to the 'no wrong door' approach that is meant to be taken, sometimes effectively becoming the revolving door to no-where.

Some mental health services embrace the need to deal with substance issues and mental health problems at the same time, to prevent sobriety causing relapse of symtoms and then relapse of substance use. It is very helpful to try to find a service that makes such efforts as the mental and AoD problems are all going on in the same head!

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 7:44 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

@JonCarer or @YTT - can you clarify what DD stands for?

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 7:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Specifically after 16 they should be consulted about who they want to have recognised as 'Designated carer' under the Mental Health Act. Designated carers (or principle care providers if the treating team recognises you) have rights to certain information under the Act, especially around medication etc., and should be consulted for care and discharge planning purposes (s79).

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YTTSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 7:45 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Dear Daughter - often used in forums

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