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unsure what to do ??

Shaz51Senior Contributor

unsure what to do ??

not sure what to do ????? My Husband has G.A.D , we have a small Mowing and Cleaning Business that we run, now and then everything builds up and we take a weekend off to relax but last week my husband took himself to hospital with an Major depressive Episode which they kept him in for a week , now we are back home with medication and awaiting mental health plan to get him back on his feet -- I have kidney disease stage 4 and can not drive ,so there is no income coming in -- today my husband said he feels like he doesn't and can`t work anymore -- the specialist said to ease back into work , any suggestions and advice will be great , just remembered the specialist gave my husband a Centrelink form -- 3 months sickness allowance to put in ?? but my husband is worried that we wont have any customers if we put the form in , at the end of 3 months but then today he doesn`t think he wants to work anymore Thank you

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hi, thank you @Janna We have tried socializing , trying to invite friends over that will engage him in other things ,but our friends have given up and comes up with excuses which is hurtfull.

We do go visit our families -- for a short period of time from time to time but my husband feels like he is left out of things .

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JannaSenior Contributor

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Is it time to join a group perhaps where he can find comfort in talking about his experience with others who understand? A lot can be gained from feeling validated and understood. I'm sure there are some groups which you both could join. Also have you suggested that he join a forum, such as that on Beyond Blue, in which he can read familiar stories and share his. Not sure if he'd be amenable to this but it's worth a shot.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Socialising can be difficult and true friends seem to be rare, but as @Janna mentioned joining groups can help.

Maybe something separate for you and him ... I dont know how many commitments you have ... if you can join a carers group etc or a craft or pursue a personal interest and he find a support group.

If he is unclear and changing his mind all the time then it is important not to force things.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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yeah @Appleblossom

A sad outcome of a diagnosis is isolation.

Can your partner see his GP and ask for centres, he may resonate with.

My husband. diagnosed chronic paranoid schizophrenia.....and I are checking Lorikeet out next week....a meeting place for people with MI, where we live in Western Australia.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hi @justanother47yr ,How Are you , We live in Far North Queensland , thank you for your message, we plan lots of things but my husband changes his mind all the time , But I went and got my hair done yesterday --my husband went to do his hobby photography but got chased but home by the rain .

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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Lol .....cute, @Shaz51

I have spent every day with my hubby.lately .......... I've asked him for a week's break. I told him that it's not his fault but I've been getting in touch with my own timetable.....and also he has been acting quite anxious as well.

I was reading on @Jacques and @hiddenite thread (can't remember the name of the thread ) of doing too much and I thought .... That's how I'm feeling and talked about it with my partner yesterday.





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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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A sad outcome of a diagnosis is isolation. ------ YEP

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hi everyone , We are still here, have had a few very very busy weeks, planning on some timeout but not happening at the moment , very hard to get a right balance , with everything that is going on , have to for my husband`s health

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ArtaudSenior Contributor

Re: unsure what to do ??

Hi

This is Artaud. Just thought I wold ay hello and respond to your post. It appears things might be a little tough right now. I just want to let you know that you have the suppport of the forum.

Cheers

Artaud

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor

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How are you @Shaz51
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