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Lonley

Alicia456Casual Contributor

Lonley

Hi I'm new here. I am a stay at home mum my partner works long hours so I'm at home with the kids all the time on my own. I have been feeling so lonley lately and lost very tired short temper. Just not myself. Don't really have anyone to talk to about this I have no friends and I don't want to burden my family they have enough on there plate without me adding to it.

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In response to: Lonley

BookwormSenior Contributor

Re: Lonley

Hi @Alicia456

Welcome to the forums! I hope you find this place a safe opportunity to share your thoughts 🙂

Was there something in particular that you wanted to talk about?

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Alicia456Casual Contributor

Re: Lonley

Maybe to see if someone has felt the same if it's normal to feel lost and lonley

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

Re: Lonley

Hi @Alicia456 🙂 It's nice to 'meet' you.

I have kids too and have spent a big chunk of my life being a stay at home parent. I was studying for a while, though I did quite a few years without study earlier. I found it lonely sometimes too, I still do. I also found myself a bit lost often (still do that too). I think there can be such a big shift in our identity that can come from becoming a mum. I have a feeling it's a pretty common thing to experience.

It's really good to see you here, reaching out for support. I'd like to hear a bit more about if you'd like to share 🙂

Hope you find the forum helpful. I certainly have. I don't feel so alone here.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

Re: Lonley

Hello @Alicia456

It is pretty normal to feel lonely if you dont have any one to talk about your life with. CHildren have a lot of love to give, but adult company and insight is needed too, when making adult decisionns

@faithandhope

@Former-Member @lovemyboys

@Former-Member

are mothers. Long daysntake their toll.

Take care of you too.

Apple

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lovemyboysSenior Contributor

Re: Lonley

Hey @Alicia456 I am also a parent. I have two boys of my own and two step children. I spent much of my boys childhood as a solo parent and just killed for some adult time and coversation.
Even now, my husband sometimes has to go away for work a few days at time and it can be lonely.

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Unknown userMember

Re: Lonley

Hi @Alicia456

Being alone a lot without adult company is hard. Are there mother & children group get togethers in your area or through the children's school or volunteering in the school canteen etc that you go along to and ease the loneliness a little? There may be other mums in the same boat. We are here for you if you would like to talk 🤗

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Unknown userMember

Re: Lonley

Hi @Alicia456, welcome to the forums, you'll make some friends here at least. I found it really helps the loneliness. My kids have left home now so i'm even more alone. Loneliness is our own responsibility to manage. Awareness is half the battle, and I'm impressed you've reached out here. We do need Adult company, common interest groups ate the best way I find, and volunteere work
Can you up your communication with your partner as much as possible (phone, email, tx, occasional meals out without the kids...? Keep talking here. So many helpful connections already 🌷🌿💜

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Unknown userMember

Re: Lonley

Hope you are okay @Alicia456🌹

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Alicia456Casual Contributor

Re: Lonley

Aww you are all to sweet. I have felt like this before but I have always managed to pull myself out of it but this time I just can't seem to. I lost alot of friendships this year and lost contact with family aswell we also moved a about 30 mins away from where we use to live and no one comes out here to visit us just feel a bit lost

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

Re: Lonley

Good morning @Alicia456. Nice to see you back 🙂

That sounds very isolating and I can understand how being separated from your supports and connections could contribute to feeling lonely and lost. I've found online connections and relationships to help enormously during these times, though having someone there in person to chat to is still missed a lot.

Do you have any interests or things that you enjoy doing for yourself during the day when your partner is working?
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