I was the same with my daughter whom just turned 21 @lovemyboys Tried to warn her of the dangers of drugs and to talk about it etc. But it was not enough, and sometimes the company our children keep of their choosing against our advice is detrimental to their making poor choices as well. My love was not enough to stop her.
My daughter has had struggles with depression, anxiety and drug addiction on and off for years. Just recently I was coming to my wits ends with the grief of it all (I have a thread here that explains). She was also in a abusive relationship which lead to her suicide attempt last year. We were there for her every step of the way. Helping and encouraging her to seek proper help, but she chose drugs against our advice and better judgement. She is a young adult..there was nothing we could do.
We can as parents only do so much and have to step back.....We can't control their free will but only be there for them as much as we can supporting and guiding. If they don't listen we can't change the situation. Please don't feel bad my friend - there was nothing more you could do.
Our daughter has improved for now but we never know how long that will last. We have done everything we can - as did you my friend. That's all as loving parents we can do.
Drugs is a scourge in society today and as parents this is soul destroying to watch our children self destructing and feeling helpless which leads to our own struggles with depression. The loss, the grief, the mislerceived guilt and stress takes can all take its toll. So please do consider seeing someone if you feel you are becoming worse, if the grief is turning into depression for self care which is equally as important. So we can keep being their for those we love and seek some reprieve for ourselves. And keep talking on here as much as you need to. But please remember this is not your fault and the love between you and your deceased son will never ever die. 💜🌹xx
