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23 year old son

23 year old son

Hi everyone

I saw an ad for this site online and thought it sounded very appropriate for me. I will start off by telling you a bit about my family.

I have 4 children - my two boys and then I have two step children, a girl and a boy.

My youngest son died in 2015, due to a variety of decisons he made that eventually lead him to relying on life support, which we chose to switch off after 7 days. He would be 21 this year. My little baby now looking down on us.

It has been very difficult for our family these last couple of years, but we have been strong for each other and pulled through times we thought we really wouldn't.

My other son, 23, I thought was going along relatively ok until the last 4 - 5 months. He came to me quite upset earlier this year asking for my help to book a GP appointment due to what appeared to him as very bad anxiety. I helped him booked an appointment and urged our local headspace to let him in as soon as possible despite an apparent 12 week wait. He has been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

He has been seeking help from a psychologist and taking medication, only been to two of his psych appointments and recently seemed very physical unwell, extremley anxious, bad tempered. I found out he has stopped taking his medication abruptly.

I'm just stuck on how to help him when the help was offered and seemed to be ok but he has now started to refuse it. He lives out of home, plays football at semi professional level, and is the manager of a local cafe, so he is doing very well for himself, I just don't understand how I can help him when he has just decided not to seek help anymore and will not speak to me or anyone about it. He needs this support and has said that himself but keeps brushing off the idea of telling his gp what has happened.

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@soul not that I know of

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Hi @lovemyboys - hope your life is currently drama free. Read that your son is getting tests done. Hope it's nothing serious that will affect his sporting career. Are you taking care of yourself as well?

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Hey @soul We're not sure what it is yet. He collapsed on Thursday and hit his head on the way down, which triggered a multitude of other issues. Waiting to hear if it is serious.
Trying to take care of myself as best I can 😀

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That's no good @lovemyboys. I hope everything will turn out alright. Must be worrying.

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They did tests then sent him home @soul then got a phone call yesterday to say he is back in there

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Oh no. That doesn't sound good. Is he staying in whilst they try to find out what is going on?

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Yes and they are keeping an eye on him @soul

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Hello @lovemyboys

How are you going? Just checking in to see how your son is doing now as well? 🤗

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Hi @lovemyboys How are you ?

I have been reading these very supportive messages from first: amazing @Former-Member then @soul then @Shaz51 @outlander @Appleblossom and at the very beginning from @Former-Member......

I really like what @Former-Member writes of your son having a delayed reaction to his brother's death......

But it's so hard to pin piont if you know what I mean.I like how @Lunar writes about him keeping busy so he doesn't have to deal with things and about you staying calm.

Calm is good.

When My 27 year old son turned 20 years old, he suffered his first breakdown/ Psychotic break and ended up in a locked ward.....Fortunately I was doing some pretty intense volunteer work in the state I live in in Mental Health so I had much support phone wise when I flew over to visit him as he lives on the other side of Australia than me......I live in WEstern Australia.

My oldest son was having memories of his terrible Father abusing me and other times of....his father's terrible abuse. When I got to the Psych ward, he says " Mum, I remember what Dad did to you." I said "But that was never your fault.

We can support you through this time but remember the most important person in this journey is YOU. It's terribly hard to acknowledge that but remeber for writing down your own time out scedule.

xx

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hope now everything is better and thanks for sharing, it's a great example for the people with the similar issues.

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