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TABSenior Contributor
just dropping by. Really not okay. Not sure how its playing out yet. Mother died 2 mths ago ish now. Was ok. Reality just getting to me. Am working now, just feeling really out of sorts , doesn't seem to be a pay off, ok sorry for glummedness. Had to tell someone. Maybe I should adopt next door neighbours cat that I see at 5am in dark while waiting for lift to work looking all freaked out. Heard her bell this morning didn't see
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KurraSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Condolences @TAB. Sorry for your loss. Grief can really take it's toll on us. We are here to support you.
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TABSenior Contributor
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So sorry to hear about your mum @TAB and that things are so hard right now for any cause/reason.
Hope work is ok today, and it's nice to see you again
Take care
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
So sorry for your loss @TAB that is really tough to deal with. 
I am pleased to see you back but so very sorry it it under such difficult circumstances.
Zoe
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Hi @Tab, sorry you lost your mum, I know she was the good parent and you wish you weren't so far away. Our parents have always been there, here on the planet, since the day we are born, of cause their dying is hard to believe and hits hard. Hand to task and being kind to yourself is key at the moment, and good company now and then. Set up a candle for her - every time you feel sad - light it in her honour. There's great strength in vulnerability. Go gently 🌿
Glad you told us, let us know how it goes. Big hug 💜
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TABSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Forget it @TAB - it is just so nice to see you back - nothing that has gone before needs to be worried about - no apologies needed at all! Meltdowns etc. are part of life - we get it 
What is important for you now is to know that we are here for you and will support you in any way we can - you are (and always have been) 'part of the familly' and that will never change.
I'll even leave a bowl of milk out for you like the 'good old days' - I really am pleased to see you back...
Zoe
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TABSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
5am @TAB - wow - I've been up around that time lately too but just because I can't sleep - same old same old here.
I have a funny story for you (I think it is amusing anyway)
Last week I saw this strange movement under the dining table - did startle me but thought it was just my mind playing tricks - next thing I see these little white paws stick out, followed by a grey cat - I don't have a grey cat! The little thing must have been searching for some warmth and came in from one of the neighbours somewhere. That isn't the funny thing though! Next - the commotion started. Cat went tearing after this grey cat then Toby went running behind her. The grey cat went up the tree in the backyard and Toby did laps for ages. I finally got Toby and Cat inside and the poor little grey cat climbed out of the tree and over the fence - I did feel sorry for grey cat - there was no way Cat and Toby was going to let grey cat into their territory - and they worked together to get rid of it - that part was adorable.
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