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@Chris Haven't forgotten about you or anyone here. Am caring a lot for my dear friends here...... I just don't have much emotional reserve....... I'm having to address something very hard and I've decided to move quickly..... It's taken lots out of me but my GP is really helping me and a policeman came to my home on an unrelated matter on Sunday and has asked me to contact him. The policeman visit was certainly bizarre but .........welcome. It was like an angel up above touched him on the nose while he was driving down the street and he decided to drop in.........
My stalker is back. I don't have any energy to push him out of my home and he puts me down, criticises, criticises. It's too shocking to write what he calls me.
My mum has said just call the police! Just kick him out! I say to her, to others.....' but he's told the police I have MI and they have called me and yelled at me for wasting their time! I can't.....I feel there's blocks for me everywhere.' I'm up front that I need a lot of support but this is really awful. So, I've got 3 or 4 days to run around and get letters written for me. I've found someone to move me and the angel of good stuff is holding my hand so I'm not obvious and patting me on the head when I go to sleep.
Thanks for reading xx @Ellie @kristen @allexandra1992
I went to see my GP this afternoon and begged her for help. She's written letters to get me. Moved via department of housing.
Ive been seeing my youngest son 3 nights this week, ive been able to get hold of him and picking him up from work and driving him home. Its only 5 inutes but ive been telling him that i love him. He is enjoying living with his friends parents. Because hes 21 i cannot go over and visit these parents but i thought when hes gone to Europe, i could drop a belated 21 birtnday card off and ask them to give it to their son to get friends to sign......
My son is going to Europe for one month.
Besides that, i see my ex husband about 3 to four times per week, i really enjoy seeing him but my home situation is stressful because my ex boyfriend wont leave / its difficult but the best thing will be ....im hoping ille have somewhere else to go shortly.
Night night, Anne
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
Hallelujah ....
Today it happened. I did it. I called the police, i called the police. Hes got himself put in jail.
Happy.. Actually, Arlo is celebrating by snoring while lying on my favourite white blanket on floor of loungeroom.
ille celebrate after writing this message by finishing washing the dishes and eating orange and almond cake after dishes are finished. (Im feeling all tingly)
14 hours ago:
My alarm went off 7.30am, Saturday morning. I sleep in the loungeroom and sleep with my clothes ready to put on on a chair next to the couch. I ran upstairs to have coffee with my neighbour and friend who is grieving death of her partner, I noticed my kitchen was filthy, my ex was asleep in my bed.
checked that my support letters to move from my home were safe, (i had also handed in both of them to public housing people the day before.)
I went to visit and have coffee with my ex husband half an hour drive away. ....i rang my youngest son and asked if I could visit him. He is living with a family in a nice home. I ended up spending a couple of hours with the mother and talking about how my son is living his life.
When i got home, my ex was smoking pot in back courtyard. I felt like screaming. My original plans of getting heaps of support and just disappearing one day fell out of the kitchen window. ( the kitchen was filthy by the way....)
I insisted he left immediately. He laughed at me so i walked inside and called the police.
It was like a blind had been lifted in my brain. I used the support letters, i got him for AS much as i could. I showed the pot he had been smoking in my home. Then, when police left, he reappeared. So, i called the police again. They had given me a 73 hour restraining order. When they finished taking the statement...he reappeared AGain, for the third time. the police were outside my home so they just grabbed him and took him to jail.
My decision was all working out. Hes in jail.....
Monday, im going in for restraining order, i have two good good support letters in order to go straight through and a very good cause to get moved quickly.
On an after note.where i live is very very nice.... ..but not my style of living.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
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Hi @Ellie, did you get my info on papers which i left on your blog ? My Psychotherapist got in touch with me and left me the details.....
I can get you the information when I get to a computer.....I don't know how to do it on my iPad...... Actually, I'm going to visit her soon. I just want to ask her some questions about my life.....
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Wow!!! @PeppiPatty sooo so so happy for you and proud of you! You are a powerful woman!! well done!! That is just fantastic news! you enjoy that cake!!! Enjoy your peaceful, safe, happy home now,
so so happy for you!
LJ
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EllieSenior Contributor
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I'm sorry, but I didn't even know I had a blog. That's the trouble with this system. If I could, I'd simply give you my em*il addy and that would be that. However, if you can point me to said blog, I'll take a look.
I haven't been around much, but I'm so shocked to read about what's been happening to you. I hope you get settled somewhere safe soon. My heart goes out to you. Trying to mend myself right now, but my problems are insignificant compared to yours. Sending you a big hug.
Ellie.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
Thanks so much bluebird aka @lisajane
This means so much to me.
I was very thorough and dealt with it very successfully
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Troubled_OneSenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
anne, it sounds like you are coming up with the solutions. Lets just hope that your ex stays away in time enough for you to get away from him and get a comfortable move or he stays in jail.
Glad its working out for you .
Lee.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
How are you Lee?
Yes, the step was amazing and what I wanted. I am very scared of him and I was living on a knives edge doing what I was doing but......it couldn't have worked out better. I feel like writing a letter to the police commissioner which I will do in about one or two months when the court cases are done and dusted. how is your brother Lee?
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
Hi again @PeppiPatty. As you suggested in the 'Weekly Friday Feast' discussion, I read through some of the messages here about the difficulties you've been going through. Feeling you can't escape from a relationship you no longer wish to be part of would be awful, especially when there are abuse issues involved. I don't really have advice to offer at this stage but I'm thinking of you and sending very best wishes on your situation quickly resolving well.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Re: Dealing with a problem creatively
Dear @Marita I'm more really annoyed than anything that this silly billy horrible nasty person took advantage of my vulnerability. Only when I started the thyroid medication ..... I 'woke up.'
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