Workplace Problems

oh no! that sounds really tough! if you do go to the meeting can you take a friend with you as support? I also have to get a clearance for my hr so i can go back to work, if i ever go back to work.. my psychiatrist wont give me one yet anyway so im not thinking about it yet. sigh!

Your workplace sounds a bit behind in understanding and working with people in a positive way to increase confidence and positivity. Might be worth phoning Fair Work SA? just for some advice and to know what your rights are.

www.fairwork.gov.au

and ph 13 13 94

goodluck!

LJ

Aww @Crazy_Bug_Lady

It seems like they don't really get the reason why you can't attend HR meetings. You not being able to attend these HR meeting does not relfect your work capacity. It makes me upset hearing about your experience at work GAH!

I wonder if it would help if your doc/psych could explain this in a little more detail? It could be a misunderstanding? I guess on the their end, your workplace could be trying to figure out what it means if you can't attend meetings so perhaps it means providing more info. That said, I can understand if you're uncomfortable providing any more information.

How you doing anyway? What are you up to tonight @Crazy_Bug_Lady?

Sending you cyber suppportive cuddles.

Great suggestions @Former-Member!

Hey @Crazy_Bug_Lady

Its so tricky in the workplace!

You're so right, if they had just said what they thought straight up, there wouldn't be this scenario where you're twice as worried as you would've been.

People don't know what to discuss - whether things should be kept hush hush or how to manage people with MI. I know when I was very ill at work - I'm sure there was way more talking going on behind my back than there was to me, and this was not useful and unsafe.

It's strange that HR training at uni doesn't have a compulsory mental health and health side to it -- sometimes the workplace has a nurse, but usually its up to HR. In my HR course it was to study work-related and developmental/learning psychology, but oftentimes HR is people who work their way up from admin. And HR is often training and development focussed, rather than health and wellbeing.

Not sure what your workplace is like, but I find its still so hush hush, because living with MI is seen as a weakness often in competitive jobs.

I reckon you've probably already gone through all the worst-case scenarios in your mind, so getting through this should be a piece of pie (or a peaceful pie haha).

They are probably worried about talking to you, hoping they do the right thing. So that's a plus. I am just trying to picutre myself going into my bosses office now...

Hooley dooley, I'd be flustered and choatic, but i think that's only if I didn't have any notice. If I had some notice, I could prepare by visualising myself being cool, calm and collected, wear my best beaded necklace, and plan my responses. I can then plan how I would say I am going to move forward from whatever is concerning them. So if they said "We are concerned about yuour behaviour" I would have a reason for the behaviour and a way to move forward from it.

It has worked for me a couple of times, but I guess it depends on the workplace.

I hope this helps @Crazy_Bug_Lady!

I'm glad that you're psych appt has been brought forward, thats helpful right now!

I think you should let them know that if they've had concerns for a 'long time' that they should have been raising the issue at an appropriate time too. Also would you consider looking for a different job, it does not sound like a nice place to work, so sorry you have to go through all that, 😞

LJ

@Crazy_Bug_Lady

You could use this a catalyst for change in your workplace.

What do you want to see changed? How could they do things differently?

You could put this on the table during the discussion with your boss?

Heya @Crazy_Bug_Lady

It's totally understandable that you're feeling stressed out about, I think most people would feel this way.

It's not nice being left out of conversations. I agree with you - why couldn't they just have this conversation with you in the first place? It could have given you a chance to change, wheras not having the discussion seems to have left most peope feeling unhappy.

Workplaces can be a tricky place. The people in that environment are not people that you have chosen to have in your life, yet you spend more time with them than most of your friends and family. It can be a very complex mix of people, which can make it hard for people to get along.

You're dealing with this exceptionally well. It's great to see that you're focusing on what you can do to move through this (seeing your psych and doing homework).

You're doing well @Crazy_Bug_Lady, things might not be the greatest right now, but all this will pass, and it will be a distant memory...