Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family

Just finished a phone discussion with MIL along the same lines.

I am fortnate to have the support of my inlaws.

Something positive:

I just spoke to my darling on the phone to tell her I would not be down for a visit tonight or tomorrow as I need to get this uni assignment finished. While dissapointed she accepted it much better than I expected 🙂

When discussing her homecoming I said that I wanted a meeting withe her and a nurse or the doctor before she came home to discuss supports, emergency plans etc, and pointed out that I was upset that it did not happen last time and I felt inadequate to be able to support her without this. She actually agreed and promised to request a time for Thursday. This is a positive as previously she would have rejected the suggestion that she even needed my help. Perhaps my open reluctance to bring her home before time has made a difference? I don't know. Trusting the hospital will be supportive of this request and process, if not I will be asking why not this time around rather than simply accepting the situation.

Have backup in place for when she comes home, someone outside of family to come visit and ensure she is safe if I need to get away to calm down and regroup at any time. (Includes late at night). even the knowledge that this support is in place brings some relief to the anxiety around how I will manage.

Looking forward to better days ahead. 🙂

Thankful, Grateful, Blessed - My new mantra.

More positive news,

I was able to have another discussion with my darling around my specific concerns around her homecoming. She has agreed to ask the dr if he believes it would benifit her stay longer rather than 'pressure him' (her words not mine) to let her go home early.

I was able to put my specific concerns and reasoning in an email and send it to her so she can show it to her nurse and dr when she sees him next for their feedback with a request to call me and discuss and clarify my concerns if necessary.

This is a really positive development, for which I am most grateful. Having my concerns and feelings recognised and considered is a big step forward. (And I have to add that perhaps things have improved more for my darling than I thought).

Thankful, Grateful, Blessed - My new mantra.

Have just caught up on your news @Determined. Love the new profile pic and am so glad things are looking brighter for you.

Well that went well....

Yesterday I thought my darling was actually considerate of my concerns. This afternoon when I arrived she was anything but considerate, all she can see is that she wants to be at home and stuff what anyone else thinks.

Pdoc was happy to approve additional days to get us past the weekend and me past my exam next Tuesday but she refused so is coming home tomorrow.

Here is my travel for the last 3 weeks and apparently all I care about is my stupid university! Never mind I blew off 3 weeks of lectures and only half completed an assignment because I was trying to be there for her...

Have told her I will be at uni every day for the next 2 weeks and she will have to look after the children seems she will be home. No doubt she will just dump them with one of the mums but that is ok, I just need to focus on exam prep. Dont have the energy to deal with anything else at the moment. The perception is that is all I care about anyway so l may as well just do what I need to do....

If I just leave her to it she may get the message.

Rant over, only focusing on the positives from now on.

I am actually looking forward to our family being back together again.

Oh no @Determined. Just when things were seemingly coming together. Could you try to get that extension on her stay especially with that upcoming exam? Seems like you have been more than accommodating to her needs and wants. You've put in the hard yards not to mention the kms driving.

If she does come tomorrow, does that mean you will get the opportunity to have that meeting where you all talk about the boundaries?