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Losing it.

DeeElysiaContributor17 May 2017, 9:06 pm AEST

Losing it.

I guess I just need some advice..

If anyone has read my previous post. My husband has recently (1 yr) ago been told hes got psychosis.

We have been together over 10 yrs now with a daughter who's 3. Over the course of our relationship hes had anxiety depression/ bipolar..

It's been a tough relationship to say the least. I still stood by him throughout his illness back then when he couldn't leave the house, couldn't work etc.. our relationship took its toll due to this. I stayed as I love him and hoped things would be better.

Now he went through psychosis a year ago. Even worse experience adding on. I'm stressed not knowing how much more I should try and take when my limitations run out. Yes refusing meds. Thinking no hes not got delusions.. We struggle to communicate and end up arguing.

He says things which make me crazy upset like let's take our 3 yr old for a brain scan accusing her of having a device on her. I try and explain how he needs help and he laughs in my face and it goes downhill from there.

I dont know what else to say do to save my marriage and to be honest if I want to keep trying to lose this battle. I just want to live a normal life relationship.. been doing this since I was 16 a d now I'm 26 I just don't know how to do this "psychosis " ontop of it all.

Will it ever get better? And would you tell me to keep trying or leave? I'm trying to think of my daughter's best interest and its hard to know what's the best thing to do.

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In response to: Losing it.

Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 2:14 pm AEST

Re: Losing it.

Hey @DeeElysia

Living grief - it accompanies mentall illness, the grief of what was and what will never be. Suddenly everything is different and it will not be the same again.

I have found for us the only way things got better was for me to learn how to cope better, to not try and fix my husband but provide a loving supportive relationship which will enables him to become the best that he can. I do have boundaries - relationship rules that protect my heart - these do include ensuring he takes his meds and only ever changing them in consultation with his doctor. I cannot romaticise things, it it not easy, it is ongoing hard work, it is heartbreaking at times.

The best help I have found in relation to psychosis is from schizophrenia websites - my husband has had so many diagnoses - at present the working diagnosis is bipolar ii but he had psychotic depression - I have posted a few thing in the "what's new" tab including articles about grief for carers - but these might be of immediate help to you,

http://www.everydayhealth.com/hs/schizophrenia-caregiver-guide/schizophrenia-and-relationships/

Lack of insight: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnbOizw_zS0

Darcy

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