1st appointment with psychiatrist - what to expect?

hello @Former-Member

That would have been an extremely emotional night for both of you. Different emotions for each of you as you struggled to try and work out what the other was feeling.

There is no answer for "will this ever go away". People who have been through this have spoken to me about it as their choice. I have just listened and held one lady as she sobbed her heart out.

I believe that trauma doesn't leave us we just learn to live with it and learn ways of not allowing ourselves to be affected by it as intensely or as often.

A psychologist who specialises in trauma would be a good start for you; you could discuss this with your psychiatrist and get ideas from him or her. Most are willing to work alongside each other.

Whoever treats you if you could ask them to teach you some coping strategies. If your husband wants to, you may be able to include him in one of your sessions so that he has a better understanding of what to have in place for you, should you feel unsafe.

If you are a reader, there are books that you can search for at your library. These days they just put a hold order in and transfer the book from another library if available.

I would say to you, try to keep your painful story contained and spoken about with professionals only. This will help you have that feeling of being held and not as vulnerable.

Of course talk about feelings on here just not incidents. This is only my opinion. Others might disagree. The choice is yours.

keep writing, feel safe , know that you are worthwhile xx

Hi @Former-Member

I think its great that you were able to share with your husband, and shows what a strong relationship you have that you were able to work through the impact, misunderstandings of all the information together. Now that he knows you have that extra level of support and safety that you can wrap yourself in.

extra support for you would be good, as others have said so that you can work through things. Like mohill said, im not sure that it can ever be dealt with enough that it goes away, and im certainly not in space where i would call myself healthily past my 'stuff'. While mohill said not to share anywhere... i would say, share what you feel comfortable with when you feel ok too, if you want to. Obviously here it needs to be within the community guidelines so specific incidents are best not be described.

I think you've probably taken some huge steps over the last month or so in starting to deal with everything, it's definitely a tricky road, but hopefully, lead to some better changes,

lj