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Ma60Senior Contributor
Just wanting to know if others find Trust a major issue in your life. For me it is one of the most important areas not only in my private life but also working life. Over the last few years especially when I have had a depressive episode I have found that there are only a few people I can really trust and feel confident to be totally honest with them.
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
Trying to get some more sleep sounds like a good plan @Former-Member. I'm wondering if @CheerBear has gone back to bed too...though probably not since I think she was having a coffee.
I hope you get a bit more sleep @Former-Member. 
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
I'm not sure if you are still around or not @CheerBear?
I can imagine that trust must be extra tricky for you because you have to be so mindful of the safety of you plus three. I can't imagine how scary it must be to constantly have to think about that. Living in constant fear definitely breaks brains. Brains are designed to need a sense of safety. I know you have been dealing with this for a long time - too long. I know you will always put the safety of yourself and the LF first...just as any awesome mother should.
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SaharaSenior Contributor
Hi @Ma60 and everyone,
I have huge issues in trusting people. Sometimes this can be a good thing, because when something goes pear-shaped in a relationship, I'm usually not disappointed because I never expected it would work out anyway!
So I go into social situations with extremely low expectations of people. I guess that I am giving out signals saying "don't get close to me... I don't trust anyone" and therefore preventing deep relationships from developing. I do crave closeness with people, but I find I am usually reluctant to take friendships deeper than surface level, even though I start out with good intentions.
All this has made me a very independent woman, who likes to do things by herself, a lot of the time. I like reading, baking, cycling, yoga, hiking and art. Notice I have no interest in team sports! And art is such a solitary activity.... you can spend all day wrapped up in your own world, with art.
At the moment, I am testing the waters with trying to become more social. This is difficult ground for me.
As far as therapists and doctors go... I more or less trust them, within reason. I certtainly never believed that they could 'fix' me or 'cure' me or anything like that. Again, I had low expectations of them! If there was anything I was unsure about, I would look it up and do some research. Then I would see a different doctor, if I wasn't happy with the service that I was getting. I could fairly confidently just shop around and get plenty of different opinions, as far as doctors go.
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Ma60Senior Contributor
Nearly four years later and still the trust issues. Unfortunately it has a new partner - feeling safe not so much physically but emotionally safe. Together they make my Anxiety can go through the roof. It makes it so difficult to engage with others. Have started going to a social group once a week. Baby steps but that is all I can handle, it took me six months from the initial phone call to actually go. Each week is another step forward.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hello @Ma60
You have not posted for a while. I saw you first registered with the forum ... nearly 4 years ago. You must be one of the original members!
I hope the group is helping.
I have serious trust issues, but I think I have masked them by low expectations and an attitude of putting up with rotten situations with lots of stoicism or endurance. As I raise my level of hope to .. that I actually matter my fear levels rise and become overwhelming.
A work in progress.
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Ma60Senior Contributor
@Appleblossomwrote:Hello @Ma60
You have not posted for a while. I saw you first registered with the forum ... nearly 4 years ago. You must be one of the original members!
I hope the group is helping.
I have serious trust issues, but I think I have masked them by low expectations and an attitude of putting up with rotten situations with lots of stoicism or endurance. As I raise my level of hope to .. that I actually matter my fear levels rise and become overwhelming.
A work in progress.
Yes @Appleblossom
i don’t post often but I look at the forum everyday. Since I stopped working my confidence has taken a hit. There are times when I want to say something but I become so overwhelmed . The forums are great it makes me realise I am not alone in this mayhem of mental illness.
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