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Much loved son

Suki1Casual Contributor10 Apr 2017, 8:31 pm AEST

Much loved son

I feel as though I have reached the end with my son. He was diagnosed with bipolar nearly 20 years ago. He always takes his medication but does not keep appointments with specialists so continues with the same regime he has always had. He just goes to a GP and gets a new script. The meds do not however work anymore and he supplements them with other drugs both legal and illegal trying to self medicate.

The effects of the most recent illicit drugs are dreadful and he rings me constantly for reassurance that he is not being pursued by those who would have him killed. Because of the life he has lived this could be a real or imagined threat.

The family have turned ourselves inside out to support him but he seems not to care about the effects on us and particularly me.

When is enough enough and how do I draw the line. He has attempted and threatens suicide and as a mother I don't want to let him down when he needs me most.

Thanks for listening

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Unknown userMember24 Apr 2017, 2:42 pm AEST

Re: Much loved son

hello @Owlunar

That empty space has been there so long only I - in my real life - know it's there - except for my professional peoplel - no one wants to talk about it now - and the empty chair is so empty no one has it out any more - for them he has gone

But the space in my life that he left is still full of memories - he used to say the funniest things - and he had a eye for beauty

Many people find talking about people who have passed away difficult. They feel that they should not bring the subject up for fear of upsetting the one who is grieving.

I disagree with this, I feel that it is important for the griever to be given the opportunity to talk about their loved one.

You have the memories and share them with me if you want. I realise for you that he has not left you therefore in your eyes he has not gone. I am sure that there are others on here who would love to do the same. We could head on over to the circle of trust or you could start your own thread. Whatever suits you. Your wishes will be respected.

Whilst I was recently in hospital I met a lady whose son had passed away through illness in his early 30's.

We found ourselves each talking about our sons and discovered common threads, her words were quite eerie. For me connection. We cried together and held each other allowing each other to grieve openly. Very healing for both of us.

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