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Not coping.

AtalantaSenior Contributor

Not coping.

I am struggling. I'm taking care of my elderly mother with mild dementia setting in, two teens which are either useless and abusive, the house needs repairs, the dog needs surgery, etc. I'm so broke now that I can't afford a pair of new joggers. Today my entire pension came in and went out on bills within a few hours...no money now for a fortnight. I'm going to have to quit study tomorrow, the only thing keeping me sane and gym and reduce the internet to a lower scale. For the next fortnight, I am going to have to ask for help to get by but its been like that since about January. I just can't cope anymore. I see my counsellor tomorrow. It's going to be my last appointment. There's no use pretending that therapy can help with all this going on. I'm done pretending.

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

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Hi @Atalanta. We chatted a couple of times when I was funshine. I'm sorry to hear that things are really hard going for you. I can see why they would be - it sounds tough (that's an understatement if ever I've said one). Do you have any support for your mum or with your kids? The carers forum might be able to offer some ideas with your mum, and there will be something out there that can offer some advice/support with the teens. Wish there was something more I could say. Thinking of you.

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AtalantaSenior Contributor

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I just needed to vent. I can't express it in real life. I have solutions. It's ok. No need to talk anymore on this, it will pass.

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CheerBearSenior Contributor

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Keep venting if it helps @Atalanta. Take care

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Unknown userMember

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Hi @Atalanta

Sometimes life can just push us to the edge at times and it hurts like hell. It takes courage to admit when we are not coping and it's a good thing not to pretend we are but to reach out as you have. First important step, well done. Please hold on. You are not alone in this. I can certainly relate to the abuse from teenage off spring (fairly normal unfortunately), but with setting boundaries and in time with maturity they do improve. But that does not help right now I know.

I work for my local community centre that helps with no interest loans and reduced price food/clothing etc that sees people through these financial hardtimes that you are experiencing. And there is often a friendly, caring ear as many volunteers have experienced these hard times themselves; - so important to continue to reach out and talk to others who can help. So glad you did here.

Do you have a community centre or charitable institution near you? Might be worth giving them a call. Not only do some offer the above but also free personal and financial counselling.

This may be just the thing to take the pressure off you right now so you can move forward in life again to better times. Take heart as there are people out there who do care and will help you. Hugs xx

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AtalantaSenior Contributor

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I'll be ok. I'm not thinking straight at the moment...a bit heavy...muddled thinking. Just watching tv and will sleep...think tomorrow. 💓

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utopiaSenior Contributor

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@Atalanta. I'm sorry you have so much on your shoulders at the moment.
I hope things improve for you tomorrow
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