Generational Trauma

Hello everyone,

I am new here and usually do not reach out online for such reasons. I am here to seek advice on what to do with my family, specifically my older brother.

I am someone of out-of-care lived experience due to a history dysfunctional family behaviours. I have estranged from parents because of past abuse and worked towards getting better for myself since moving. Ever since I moved as a result between a physical altercation between me and my father a 5 years ago, I started to see a lot of changes within him.

To specify, he is 22. He no longer engages in physical activity; isolates and withdraws from himself; struggles with hygiene; has a spending problem;. He has also lost all his friends from high school, has recently dropped out of university studying a Bachelor of Psychology and lost Youth Allowance from Centrelink. He only got medicated and diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety, however he refuses to seek further support for this.

His everyday life consists of spam posting on X and obssessing over a gacha game on his PC, failing to get adequate sleep and sleeping hygiene habits, isolating himself in a room chronically online. He rarely goes out unless he has a girlfriend which he sometimes finds a new way to get or with online friends. I have tried reaching out, discussing a little bit about my perspective while giving him low-pressure to open up and discuss about my concerns via email, text and phone. All of which were ignored.

As someone who has witnessed and experience most of the abuse, it hurts to see him not do anything about it. I constantly remind myself that I should probably go about my life, but I also have a 12 year old ittle brother that lives there, someone who I care a lot about. I have gone out of my way to shut down inappropriate conversations to protect him from experience what I went through.

Doing some research, I was trying to look for alternatives for involuntary hospital admission as my older brother does not meet the requirements for serious harm to others/self. I am not sure who to talk to about this and may want to speak to my parents again to coordinate with them, despite this being difficult for me.

I understand that I should respect my older brother's autonomy, however I am concerned that he's going to live a life wasting his 20s away without any dreams, hopes or specific goals for the future. I am also worried about the environment my younger brother has to live in witnessing all of this and not knowing all of the reasons why.

I am sort of stuck on what else I could do to try and support my older brother, while simulataneously ensuring that my younger brother lives in a safe environment.

If there are any advice that can be given or other alternatives I have not yet considered, please let me know. Currently seeing if I can contact a local mental health triage support potentially. Not sure at the moment.