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Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

And seeking advice please!

I would like some help please. Please be nice.

I was diagnosed with ADHD a while back, I took medication but now I realise, I need coaching and therapy for my mental health. I also have schizoaffective and I was part of the public mental health system but I have been discharged, since I am 25 years old now.

  • I find it hard to have motivation to do anything. I am always lying in bed doom scrolling.
  • Comparing to how I was 7 years ago, I am feeling stuck and in the same position as I was 7 years ago nothing has progressed.
  • I am always starting something like study and work but never finishing/committing to it and quitting after I find it hard. I started a Bachelor of Nursing but I plan to continue it next year.
  • I feel like I’ve not accomplished anything that significant, I’ve completed a certification once, which was a certificate iv in mental health.
  • I have no self control - no savings because i always spend my money.
  • I have a little bit of friends: I have a boyfriend, which I am so thankful to have company.

Honestly, I could’ve done high school 1.5 times again.

How do i change my mindset and change myself? I don’t like this feeling.

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In response to: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Re: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Hi there @owo , thank you for being so open about what life has been like for you, and introducing yourself on the community forums - welcome!

It sounds really frustrating to look back over the past seven years and feel as though you haven’t moved forward in the way you hoped. At the same time, I noticed some important things in what you shared: you’ve completed your Certificate IV in Mental Health, you’re thinking about returning to your Bachelor of Nursing next year, you have your boyfriend and some friendships in your life, and you’ve recognised that you’d like some additional support. Those things matter.

Changing things doesn’t have to mean changing everything about yourself at once. Sometimes it can start with understanding what is getting in the way, identifying what matters to you, and working on small and realistic steps from there.

As you’ve mentioned wanting some coaching and support with your mental health, you might like to consider registering for SANE's RecoveryClub program Welcome to SANE’s Recovery Club. Once registered, you can book 1:1 sessions with a Facilitator/Counsellor and group sessions around recovery planning, which could give you some space to explore things like motivation, routines, study or work goals, and what moving forward might look like for you.

You’ve already taken a step by reaching out here and asking for help. I hope you can give yourself some credit for that too.

Take care, meantime

liminalzest

In response to: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Re: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

This is a good first step. Maybe the knowledge you have gained about not finishing things is knowledge you can use to assist other people who don’t finish things!

In response to: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Re: Life has been the same for the past 7 years after high school

Hey @owo

It sounds like a lot has been happening in your life. Schizoaffective is a tough disorder to deal with. It’s great that you are able to recognise that you need help. It’s frustrating feeling like you’re stuck but it’s important to recognise the progress you have made. Starting a Bachelor of Nursing and completing a certificate IV in mental health are things to be proud of. It’s great that you have a partner and friends. Motivation often comes after starting. Learning how to do things whilst you aren’t feeling motivated might be useful for you. See if you can start with doing five minutes of whatever you need to do. Once five minutes passes you can stop or you might feel like continuing. Sometimes starting is the most difficult part. You still have your whole life in front of you. You have potential. Never forget that. It’s not going to be easy but you can do hard things.

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